well worth the investment
You could spend thousands of dollars in counselling which may our may not work, or a fraction of that for a far more effective solution.
No
"No" is incredibly appealing to him, if you do it right. Wear the most revealing outfits while he is caged and tease him frequently. Tell him how big of a turn on it is to know he is locked up.
PDD
Public displays of dominance. Perhaps a collar is too much for you... You can at least make him kneel before you, or rub your feet, just a nice gesture, but shows the world and remind him that you dominate
Great quote
"Behind every great man there's a great woman"
lifestyle
If you are new to this, you may think domination is something for the bedroom. No. It should be something that constrains him all day and night. It changes how chores get done, and impacts his mindset whether you are with him or not
whip
Get a whip right now! You don't have to use it, but holding onto it, and waving it around its such a powerful weapon. Go. Right now and Get a good one! He will love it. He will submit before you
on top
It is good to be on top. You should tell him whether he should crane his neck to reach for your pussy, or whether you want him to remain still, so you can control where to put his tongue. Great position for teasing him too!
mix it up
Sometimes leave him fully clothed while you are nude. It teaches him to worship you, and that he should be ready to pleasure you regardless of his release. Sometimes remain fully clothed while he is nude. It shows your power over him, and reminds him he is subservient.
blowjob
Blowjobs might seem degrading to you, for a female led relationship. Change things around by letting him know he can get a blowjob, but only if he will eat his own cum. Doubtful that he will refuse!
text preparation
Use texting some days, to let him know you are on your way home and want him stripped, collared and ready to go when you arrive. You don't have too hurry... The suspense is good for him. Have even more fun. Ring the doorbell, and make him let you in the front door.