... It's now (5) time to peg him.  Start slow and then thrust like he would love to be able to.

... Now (4), wack his ass.  Surely there is some misdeed that is worthy of this pinishment!

... Next (3), make him suck your cock. Again, if he is new, he may rebel and think this is too much.  If his cock is locked up, he will quickly learn this is a new reality for him.  This is what mistress demands, so this is what mistress gets.

...  Then (2), slap him with your cock, to let him feel it, and get a light punishment. Especially when he is new to femdom, he will not be used to being face to face with a cock.  You own him, and he will soon grasp this truth.

Let him watch you stroke your cock before giving it to him.  It will remind him of the simple things he can no longer do, and prove yet again that you control any stroking.

Never underestimate the immense power of your body and a sexy bra to get just about anything you want from a man.

Men, your chastity should give you the time and motivation to get really good at pleasing your mistress.  Learn techniques to give a REAL massage.  Failure to do so...  Well, just get really good at it!

Whether you choose to tell your friends about your chastity arrangement or not is irrelevant.  His wondering about how much they know is a great thrill and tease.  Make sure you wear your key on a necklace to add to the thrill

Make him repeat this often.  Making him do this while you are topless works wonders for his motivation.  Punish him for dropping his gaze to your breasts without permission

improve his Tongue strength and creativity by making him trace letters with his Tongue pressed against your pussy.  For example, trace, "yes Mistress".  Find phrases that are especially pleasurable, and Make Longer phrases, to keep him busy. Don't forget to discipline, if he's not doing it perfectly.  :)