Ups and Downs and Ups Again
The Rough Subbe and I have been going through some challenging things lately regarding our relationship. It is always somewhat tenuous because of our ages and places in life, but sometimes I feel it more than other times. Yes! Dommes can get insecure. And it is very bad for a D/s dynamic—at least mine. When I feel insecure in our relationship, I veer between anger at him for making me feel insecure, anger at myself for staying in a situation that’s making me feel that way, and then an intense desire to please, which is rather counterintuitive for an F/m relationship. Also, all of this veering can happen all at once. I’ll be nice and kind and then end making some cutting remark [...]