The wonderful Christine M left me a comment with this  question. Ms Scarlet I have always avoided spanking the penis out of fear of serious bruising, knowing there are so many blood vessels within. Can I therefore enquire, when you use the ruler, can you give an indication of how hard you strike, and what might be a typical number of strokes? This is not mentioned in your Manual, which I have enjoyed. At the end, is there much bruising, and if so, how long does it last? This is my response below. Do any other ruler smacking users have any guidance tips on how hard to smack? It is hard to put into the written word how hard a smack should be. I [...]

Some great new posts from the delightful Mistress Rebecca Follow this link. Source: Ms Scarlet Watch this space – great new posts here

Well it was a full-on domination day but it was also the day before bitch-boy had to go to hospital for a very personal examination. (Nothing serious.) I had decided to accompany him to the hospital. I had insisted he shave his genitals today so that would be an embarrassment for him at the hospital. I decided he could snap out his black, acrylic frenum piercing ring. I would have him glue another ring in place when we got back from the hospital. However today, he was due a serious punishment for an infraction. I decided against the cane or similar as I did not want his butt all bruised and marked. I did not want to be reported for assault or domestic abuse. [...]

On the 2nd September I posted a theory on maximising the effect on the submissive. There was more detail, but the key I contend is that the submissive’s PERCEPTION of the dominant’s cruelty is key to maximising effect. I mentioned that if there is any doubt that humiliating, painful,  tedious, and or demeaning activity for the submissive was giving sadistic pleasure to the dominant, then the dominant should verbalise that fact. (I amended the theory the next day to say that if the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be [...]

In my last post I mentioned the delightful Mistress Rebecca. (She also left comments on my blog recently.) Well she has started her own blog. If you are lucky she will fully describe her real life FLR regime and its developments in the future as evolution continues. So you might want to follow her. Source: Ms Scarlet Watch This Space!

I wrote about this before, a couple of years ago. But recent interactions have caused me to wonder about the prevalence of returning male submissive puppets back to virgin status; never ever again allowed to penetrate their Mistress, or any woman. It is around 11 years now for bitch-boy. For the puppet of my newest wonderful Domme friend, Mistress Nicola, it is 4 years, and for a delightful domestic USA Domme, Mistress Rebecca, I have been recently corresponding with by email, it is about 4 months. (My email correspondence with her, during the period she pondered and then made her decision to return her repeatedly tearful husband to BAVS, and some commentary from me, features as a short entry in the draft of Volume 12 of my journals.) With bitch-boy [...]

I thought I had banged on about nettles until everyone was bored rigid. However I received this question in a comment. P.S. Are you able / willing to share a photo of the type of nettles to look out for please? So I hope this will be a definitive post. The best nettles are bright, bottle green in colour and have yet to flower.  The leaves are close together at the top, which is a fantastic side effect of them being at the right stage; when it comes to whipping or stroking with them. This is the Springtime nettle. These  sting the most by far and the stings can last for 4 hours. As we move to summer the nettles flower, (the strings of bobbles). The colour [...]

Well I am just old enough to remember the UK hit by Gilbert O’Sullivan, Alone Again Naturally. I saw the song title used on a bondage image on Tumblr. Here is my image for the title. I will never think of the track the same way again whenever I hear the title!     Source: Ms Scarlet Alone again, naturally – bondage

Mistress Nicola visited again and through our emails since her first visit she had come to understand that I had not exposed to her my most EXTREME humiliations of bitch-boy; fearing the potential grotesqueness and weirdness of my approach may be too much for her. (While she has been into chastity control, bedtime control  and generous torture of her slave husband for several years, humiliation had not really featured to a great extent. She is delightfully sadistic when it comes to inflicting pain though, I have to say!) Well Mistress Nicola asked that I put bitch-boy through his very worst humiliations on her second visit. She was intrigued and imagined she would enjoy his misery. Obviously I was very happy to do so. Poor bitch-boy [...]

So far there has been universal agreement with the theory I set out in yesterday’s post, with one caveat. If the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be no doubt in the mind of the submissive. Any such doubt should be eradicated by verbalising. If in doubt, verbalise. LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual. Source: Ms Scarlet Maximising the effect on the submissive (part 2)