Well I do not think I have ever had as many comments on a post as on my post about the precise meaning of the terms, Slave and Sub! And it was no surprise that views were varied and also totally conflicting. There were some very wise and well thought through comments for which I am grateful. Many commenters agreed the issue was confusing. Now given after honesty, good communication is the most important thing in a relationship, and given in a BDSM relationship, communication is even more important than in a vanilla one – what a problem we have if we do not even agree on what the words mean that we bandy about. (And as a writer who loves precise word [...]

I talk often about the power-pleasure of CFNM. Clothed Female Naked Male. Particularly, the Domme dressed in clothes she would wear to an office or wedding or even relatively sexy clothes to relax in, such as tight T-shirt, leggings and Ugg boot slippers. AND the male is naked. Add one or more additional females to the situation and the vulnerability and shaming of the male ratchets up 1000%. Replace his nakedness with partial nakedness using little girl, or sissy maid clothing with a dress coming down only to his hips, frill topped ankle socks and his shaved, naked genitalia remaining on full display – and the shaming of the male ratchets up another 1000%. I normally write that part of this scenario is that the Domme does not [...]

I am confused. I use the terms ‘my slave’ and ‘my sub’ interchangeably. To me they mean the same thing. However I think I have noticed that in the wonderful BDSM community, some people apply different definitions to ‘a sub’ and ‘a slave’. Can anyone enlighten me as to the difference? I would be grateful. Source: Ms Scarlet

It is over 6 years since I published my very first Journal so, given I am about to publish the 11th, it is lovely to still be getting the odd review like the one above on my very first Journal. And of course very rewarding to be thought of, by a few people, as the best writer there is of this genre.  I have just slashed the purchase price of Volume 1 on Kindle and LULU (ePub) for a limited period, just out of interest really.   Kindle UK   Kindle US    Kindle FR   Kindle DE   Kindle IT   Kindle ES  Kindle CA Lulu.com  EPUB   Source: Ms Scarlet

Continuing from Saturday’s post, the subsequent comment from BootGimp reminded me of three names I used to use for bitch-boy but had forgotten all about. I will start using them again. Cum Bucket, Cum Dumpster and Cum Stain. The first two have always been appropriate because he is made to consume his own semen from time to time, particularly, consuming semen/water ice chunks when in TSD bondage.  And there is always the vague threat that it will be other males’ semen one day. The third name, Cum Stain, now works very well as Governess Lexi, has a few times, after she and I have been in bed lovemaking and she has spent ages licking me, had bitch-boy lean over and lick, for a while, the ‘wet patch’ [...]

I have a pair of sunglasses which have thick brown paper glued to the insides of both lenses. The wearer of the sunglasses is blind when wearing them, but to anyone looking at the wearer it appears they are simply wearing sunglasses. The potential is great! I have Play-toy wear them whenever I am driving her in my car. She gets so anxious when I tell her to lift her dress hem and play with herself. Not knowing who might be watching. Very amusing. And she never knows where I am taking her on any drive. If I pull over for some reason, she immediately gets very scared, even if I have left the engine running. Well, I have seen these contact lenses on [...]

It is a lovely pleasure when abusing my slave husband to label him with abusive terms and names. Just one of the many shaming, humiliating things for him to endure. And it feels so deliciously spiteful to do. Obviously, he is generally called bitch-boy. After a while I think the main name (bitch-boy) ceases to have a shaming impact. I list below other labels that have been used in the past or I use now. The extra hurt when I use one of these terms rather than, ‘bitch-boy’ is always plain to see. I wonder if any follower has any other suggestions. Bitch, Sissy, Pansy, Sissy-boy, Pansy boy, Pansy-piece, Nancy-boy, Nancy, Slut, Prissy, Prissy sissy, Sissykins, Prissykins, Good little girl, Naughty little girl, Born again virgin, Object, [...]

There is a good on-line shop for BDSM equipment called Extreme Restraints . I have just bought some birthday ‘presents’ for Play-toy from the site. BUT, if you are in the UK there is an issue. The site presents as a UK site and prices are in UK sterling, but when you place an order it seems the retailer is based in the USA. Two issues with this. Firstly, there is a customs charge to pay so my last set of purchase ended up around £15 more expensive than expected. Secondly, there is the risk of the people at customs opening up the package and if you worry about your good name and reputation in the vanilla world, this may concern you.   [...]