Dickie-Discipline To Endure

I have to give my HUGE thanks to Christine M for introducing me to Linnex Heat Stick. (I think poor bitch-boy is rather less thank full.) It was quite hard to get hold of but it seems to provide as uncomfortable a ‘burn’ as any Deep Heat product but seems to also last much longer. I think over the Xmas break, Nurse Nasty will have to run a very ‘scientific’ experiment to compare how long a Linnex stick application lasts compared to an application of the Deep Heat Muscle rub.  Bitch-boys sobbing seems the same with either so the experiment will be about duration. My guess at the moment is the Linnex stick lasts two to three times longer. I provide very detailed accounts of Nurse Nasty [...]

Unlawful Tumblr images

I was wondering, in the UK, the specification of images that it is unlawful to circulate on the grounds of obscenity. Obviously, anything to do with paedophilia, necrophilia and bestiality; but what else? Please comment if you know where to find the relevant legislation or what it is. Please do not comment  if you are simply guessing. Source: Ms Scarlet Unlawful Tumblr images

Contact-lense Blindfold

Derek left a comment regarding surreptitious BDSM equipment relating to contact lenses which are made as blindfolds. A fantastic idea but I have heard stories of fancy dress contact lenses causing damage so could never myself take the risk of using these BDSM lenses on a precious sub of mine. And there is the problem that only an experienced contact lense wearer is likely to be able to wear contact lenses free of streaming eyes. The notion did however get my creativity going for using medical grade contact lenses to ‘blindfold’ a sub who is a regular contact lense wearer, based on my own experience of wearing contact lenses. Simply use a prescription specification that is at an extreme end of what is available from proper optical suppliers. Base [...]

The Crown & Home Cooking

It was a Tuesday, but not a #PunishTuesday. I came home and I don’t think he’d left the bed since I went to work that morning. It’s his vacation and I want him to rest, but like many humans with a streak of perfectionism, idleness is deleterious to his emotional well being. As a person with a chronic physical ailment, not having the energy to do things is an all too common experience for him. For myself, my mood has slipped a notch since the last week of October. What is generally the favourite part of the year for me has been marred by a heavy measure of frustration, anxiety and sadness over various things. It’s given me less time to notice that [...]

A Sex Shop Date With Wildcard

Last Saturday, Wildcard identified my doldrums as needing fixing, s we went out to watch Dr. Strange and then gorge on sushi, the latter activity almost  meaning a visit to the nearby sex shop, called “Romance“. Every relationship has its rituals. I have an undying love for salmon, particularly raw or smoked. Wildcard has a tradition of eating his feelings in delicious all you can eat buffet omnoms. Having a favourite fishing hole, and being fond of me, he shared the location and now we make monthly pilgrimages. Faces get stuffed, then we invariably go sex toy shopping. At first the shopping trips were an accidental extension of geography. The store just happens to be between us and where we always park. Honestly, showing [...]

Femdom Life: NO-vember Begins

November is prostate cancer and men’s health, diabetes and national novel writing month. It’s also the first quiet period I’ve had in a long time. Thus begins the month of Pearl Not Doing Things. A major vanilla project I’m working on has started to wind down. I’ve dealt with the whole (alleged) serial rapist in the community and pitched a friend from my social group for less severe but definitely horrible things. Those of you that follow me on social media know it was an intense experience that drained a lot of my energy. That and I’ve got one of those persistent low grade health thingees that I need to spend some Canadian Healthcare on. And I was a bridesmaid, which did not [...]

The Kink Role Decoder You Were Waiting For

Ever wondered what those titles and identifier tags meant? This list is here to set you straight when you are getting kinky. Primal Predator: He really likes rough sex. Somehow this impresses some people and is seen as more ‘intense’.  babygirl: She’s somewhere between the ages of 35 and 45 and she has her shit together more than you ever will. Also she really likes colouring. Domme: Identifies as female, is dominant. Gets way more solicitations to sub to strange men than she would like. Which is any number greater than zero. Also get solicitations from ostensibly dom men offering themselves if she promises not to tell on them. Dominant: Is a dominant as noted, but if female constructions like “Domme” makes her teeth [...]

Herr Kommandandt Quits. Now What?

Herr Kommandandt has stepped down from his role in Urban Dungeon, and allegedly the BDSM scene. After the number of abuse allegations climbed to 11+ separate individuals with startlingly similar stories of rape, injuries they never consented to, theft and abuse, and a post of mine that made Kinky & Popular on fetlife, there’s some sort of response to all this other than denial. Well, that’s pretty vindicating. The allegations are getting fully talked about. Other people are talking to MasterSin about the involvement of Montreal Fetish Weekend. I’m getting talked about, in that oblique and careful way that fet does, as a “kinky blogger”. There’s a statement on his profile and in an event thread in the fet group- and one here [...]

Something Positive From MTL: A Lingerie for Men Show!

After that necessary barrage of negativity about abuse allegations, and the unhinged messages from special salad man, I want to digress into talking about something pretty neat happening in my city… A Lingerie for Men Fashion Show! I often talk about the strictures on men, particularly male subs, not to be objects of sexual desire. As a woman, there are lingerie looks I can try from frothy in ruffles to fierce in leather. As a male, the lingerie for men options usually demand simply cross dress or offer aggressive sports wear or strict bondage looks. The dichotomy is strict- modern masculinity eschews softness. For a gender that is automatically associated with dominance for many people, the list of rules governing what men can’t [...]

Crazy Messages: Sessions for Salad Dressing Plz?

{$inline_image} It’s not unusual to get unsolicted messages on fetlife, as a woman. For a background my relationship to Wildcard is featured pretty prominently, and my profile is set to events only. If I want to play with someone I prefer to initiate, but this has never deterred anyone. Special Salad Dressing Man: I just read your profile for the first time and found it quite interesting. I am 50 years old , a very elegant young 50, nice looking and respectful. I understand all rules I do not play publicly, only privately. I have a great track record with one particular domme in the city who right now happens to be on sabbatical. Would you be interested in talking to me to [...]