Somewhat recently, I made some guest posts on chastity and chastity devices. Based on some of the comments to those posts I just wanted to state a few things regarding those posts and any further  posts that I might make including this one. There is no one size fits all when it comes to anything and that most definitely includes relationships and even more specifically kinky FLR ones. Everyone's flavor of kink is slightly or even largely different. Everyone's life experiences are different. Everyone’s reaction to various stimulus are a bit different. So what works for one couple may not work at all for another couple. We all are made up of unique mojo. So please when you read anything I might have [...]

I’m sure you have read about, or experienced punishment while either in a WLM,or reading about WLM. Being bent over a chair for the paddle, corner time, orbeing given the wife’s sister’s weeks worth of laundry to complete.If you have heard of the four levels of FLR’s we are at about a three.My wife’s first choice punishment was always the old standby…. corporal. Aproblem soon became apparent when I started looking forward to these times,and they became non-effective. This caused her to start looking for ideas that Imost certainly would NOT look forward to. To give proper credit, she gained oneof these ideas, and the concept of me NOT wanting it, from a blog written byMistress Scarlet of the UK. These incidents I [...]

 As promised, in this post I am sharing ideas on rewards and devotion activities for my husband, which are designed to strengthen his devotion to me. These are activities that he will enjoy, mainly because of the dominance aspect, but also because they will make me happy, which is what drives his devotion. The devotion aspect is new to me, but I’ve done research on devotion and have come up with some ideas based on the research. I researched both the meaning of devotion in general and how people have used devotion in a Wife Led Marriage or a Female Dominate relationship.  As you can imagine, most information on devotion related to religion and most of the Femdom devotion topics were fantasy and [...]

Now, that I am back writing again, I wanted to remind you of a few things:1. Readers can submit profiles of themselves.  See the profile template in the menus on the right side of the blog. This is a great way to let everyone know about yourself. You are welcome to answer all the questions or just some of the questions on the template. If you would like to update your profile, just resubmit a template and let me know that you want to replace the original one.2. You a free to submit a guest post to be published on the blog. This is a "Think Tank" blog so I welcome different topics and opinion posts. Please make sure they are thoughtfully written, [...]

It has been some time since I posted, hasn’t it? It’s been one of those moments in life for me, where everything hit at once between personal, family, and work. The dust has finally settled. I can breathe now. Phew! I am happy to be back to writing again. It’s no secret that in those busy moments, some things must give or be put on hold. This blog was one example, and another example was some of the regular rituals and routines that were in place in my WLM. It certainly tested Thomas’s submission and he faltered a bit. If anything, our experience over the last few months reinforced with me, that many of the things I’ve shared on my blog, such as [...]

 When the mood strikes me and I feel like toying with Thomas, I will negotiate his his orgasm or add conditions to earning his orgasm. Well....it is not much of a negotiation because he has absolutely no leverage, but I like to make him think that he has some ability to negotiate. This always turns into a fun erotic mind game for him. I'll push his limits to see how desperate and weak he becomes.The negotiation and conditions can start before the teasing begins. For couples who have established days or dates for orgasm, it can be fun for the wife to start a few days in advance and demand tasks be done prior to his orgasm day. Not completing the tasks in time [...]

When it comes to orgasm control, most people focus on orgasm denial. However, giving permission to orgasm is a very important aspect of orgasm control. It is exciting for the both the guy and the woman when he asks for permission to orgasm and she says 'yes,' and he immediately explodes into orgasm. Her "Yes," gives him instant pleasure and fills him with gratitude toward her for allowing the pleasure. That is powerful. It is even more powerful when she commands him to cum and he releases immediately. There are many fun ways to send him into the bliss of orgasm.Just say Yes! The approach that I use most often, which is not very often since my husband does not get many orgasms :), [...]

In my last post I discussed common strategies for orgasm control and how orgasm control is a powerful tool in a WLM/FLR. Orgasm control was the very first thing I did with my husband. It was my introduction into WLM and Female Control. It was all at his request, so everything was brand new to me at the time. When he first explained to me that I could decide when he could orgasm and that I could make him pleasure me without him having an orgasm, I thought it was strange but it sounded like fun so I decided to give it a try. Those first few weeks were the most sex filled weeks that I ever experienced. There were lots of orgasms [...]

Below is a nice light hearted essay from on serving women, written by Frank.  Enjoy!  -Mz KayleeAs you may know I have never had the pleasure of being a lady's live-in servant/boyfriend. But I have had the honor of serving two ladies (consecutively) as their regular domestic. As we speak, I have just completed my first trial run as a servant for a lady I recently acquainted on FL. She would be “my” third Boss Lady.I can't tell you how much I missed it.The joy of being out of the house again. The privilege, and fortune, that I have had to always serve houses nicer and bigger than mine. So refreshing. The joy of wiping bathroom tiles knowing things get real clean for [...]

I know I am not alone in the opinion that orgasm control (when the wife/gf determines when and how the husband/bf orgasms) is a critical part of a Wife Led Marriage (WLM) or Female Led Relationship (FLR). Orgasm Control is a powerful tool in establishing the woman's authority in the relationship and in making her central in the husband's/bf's world. There are several common strategies for orgasm control that I've come across: Fixed Schedule For Orgasms In this strategy the wife/gf puts the guy on a regular schedule for orgasms such as every Saturday, once a month etc. A variation is that after each orgasm the wife establishes a specific date for the next orgasm. As long as the guy is good, [...]