Well it seems that it was only a few weeks ago I reported that my Tumblr site had grown to 15,000 followers. Well since then it has grown to 16,000 followers. I think this does show the gap between what the porn industry and many Dominatrices provide online and  what submissive males actually like. My Tumblr site almost never features dungeons or warehouses or women in PVC or women in uncomfortable underwear or corsets. It mostly features women in comfortable clothing, albeit often sexy too. But nothing a woman would not wear in a vanilla situation. Women, often relaxing and focussing on what they get out of domination, not what the male might fantasise he wants. Moving onto my second subject, I read that in [...]

I read a science article recently on Big Think about childhood bullying. Most of it was irrelevant to my blog but one statistic caught my eye. Of the 3,600 people studied, 1,257 admitted as children to have systematically bullied one or more other children. That’s 35%. Why do I raise this? Well I often attempt to help hesitant but enthusiastic wives and girlfriends of submissive males become dominant and also sadistic. I go into some detail on this topic in my BDSM manual and point out that cruelty, taking pleasure from inflicting physical or mental pain, (sadism), takes the intensity of emotions up for both the Domme and the sub. In a nutshell, the sub feels utterly dominated and controlled  because there is much more power [...]

One of my email slaves was required to buy this chastity device. He has provided a review of it which I thought may be of interest. (It reminds me of the infamous KTB, Kali’s Teeth Bracelet.) Review of the Club Fem device. It is relatively expensive for what it is, a simple plastic strip with spikes on the inside and slits for a tie to thread through. However, in the world of Chastity devices it is inexpensive. Club Fem are easy to deal with. slave Genie (s.genie) responds to emails promptly and follows up to ensure the device has arrived. Full instructions on how to fit and wear it are given on the Club Fem website, which are essentially thread it with a [...]

I received a comment and I would like to put my responses to this comment to my dear submissive blog followers to elicit their views. Part 1 of the comment: I’m a submissive, so I can speak to my own experience. It can frustrate me that my motivation to submit can crash after intense sexual experiences (after climax, especially) I don’t know if that means should somehow learn to love it even when I feel “crashed”or try not to crash. MY RESPONSE TO PART 1: In my experience, if the male feels helplessly dominated as a lifestyle, never allowed safe-words or boundaries, never allowed to say when domination does or does not take place. A true helpless puppet. Then the period after climax of not [...]

So following a request I found two letters in my archive from the wonderful old MADAME magazine of the 1980s regarding another mother-in-law. The mother of Mary from Maxstoke. I have posted a letter from Mary and one from her Denise  her friend in the Domme’s Letter section of this blog. The two letters go as far as the previously published letter from Pamela. I have not read the letters, I am so busy, so let me know if there are any problems with them. I do remember Mary and her mother operating at the pinnacle of petticoat disciple and male subjugation. I expand below a comment I made in discussion about mothers-in-law and the powerful response this topic has elicited. I think a [...]

A recent scientific study found that lavender and tea tree oils boost oestrogen and inhibit testosterone in men. I know nothing about the use of essential oils but I thought Dommes may be interested to know about the properties of these oils. An issue arises. It seems that if you are a Domme most interested in the teasing and denial of a chastity controlled submissive,  you should avoid these oils for your submissive because they will dampen that desperate male drive for orgasm. While if  you are a Domme most interested in the serious, enforced feminisation of your male submissive, then you should use these oils to the maximum safe levels in order to dampen male traits, promote feminine bodily features and perhaps even some male breast growth. [...]

Some lovely new praise below about my BDSM manual. Of course, I am far from being the ‘Grand Mistress of Femdom’ (see below). There are many more deserving than me of that title; some of whom leave comments on this blog. So many people have already bought a copy of the manual. It really is rewarding. But no one has yet asked for clarification of anything within the manual via this blog. To those who have obtained the manual already, please leave a comment if any queries arise from reading the content of the manual. New comments on the Manual Your book, Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentent: A Guidance Manual is a fantastic read and such great value for money. I love it. In my [...]

In my post of 11 March 2018 I said I would write more on this delicious topic. Just to remind you, One twist to this issue I have read about so many times over the years is the transfer of a husband sub to his single mother-in-law. I do find these accounts delicious. In these accounts, many of which I do not doubt for a moment are true, a sub becomes cuckolded and his Domme then falls in love with her cuckolding partner and the partner becomes live-in. And rather than divorced, the sub is ‘adopted’ by his single mother-in-law, (a widow or divorcee). Often in the marriage the sub was initially abusive or an alcoholic, but has been totally conquered to a sub role and [...]

Well recently it was the birthday of Mistress Nicola’s husband-puppet, pansy-piece. As an aside I will mention Volume 12 of my journals, which is nearly finished now, includes an account of what happened to pansy-piece before, during and after Nicola and I took the poor thing to a restaurant for his birthday meal. I also subsequently visited to see what presents Mistress Nicola had bought him. In the photo you can see some of the presents. The pansy bonnet, the baby reins, the false eyelashes and the sweet sissy shoes. How ridiculous does he look! The shame annihilated him when we had him look at himself in front of a full-length mirror in his pansy finery, while we stood arms around each others’ [...]