For reasons I need not mention, there will be a break in my posting of blog entries and moderating/publishing/responding to comments. The break will start in two or three weeks and will last for two to four weeks. After the break I will resume as normal. On a separate note, the volume of sales of my BDSM Manual have been very considerable; I guess because it is for any gender of dominant dealing with any gender of submissive it has mass appeal. So far I have only received positive comments. I do wonder if it has been featured on some BDSM book review site or similar to have become so popular so quickly.   LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual.     [...]

Cuckx has advised me of a blog/website masquerading as one of mine. IT IS NOT! It is nothing to do with me at all. This is an example page. https://www.femdomtraining.ca/pretty-nettle-pouch/   Source: Ms Scarlet Beware a fake Mistress Scarlet blog

The wonderful Christine M left me a comment with this  question. Ms Scarlet I have always avoided spanking the penis out of fear of serious bruising, knowing there are so many blood vessels within. Can I therefore enquire, when you use the ruler, can you give an indication of how hard you strike, and what might be a typical number of strokes? This is not mentioned in your Manual, which I have enjoyed. At the end, is there much bruising, and if so, how long does it last? This is my response below. Do any other ruler smacking users have any guidance tips on how hard to smack? It is hard to put into the written word how hard a smack should be. I [...]

Some great new posts from the delightful Mistress Rebecca Follow this link. Source: Ms Scarlet Watch this space – great new posts here

Well it was a full-on domination day but it was also the day before bitch-boy had to go to hospital for a very personal examination. (Nothing serious.) I had decided to accompany him to the hospital. I had insisted he shave his genitals today so that would be an embarrassment for him at the hospital. I decided he could snap out his black, acrylic frenum piercing ring. I would have him glue another ring in place when we got back from the hospital. However today, he was due a serious punishment for an infraction. I decided against the cane or similar as I did not want his butt all bruised and marked. I did not want to be reported for assault or domestic abuse. [...]

On the 2nd September I posted a theory on maximising the effect on the submissive. There was more detail, but the key I contend is that the submissive’s PERCEPTION of the dominant’s cruelty is key to maximising effect. I mentioned that if there is any doubt that humiliating, painful,  tedious, and or demeaning activity for the submissive was giving sadistic pleasure to the dominant, then the dominant should verbalise that fact. (I amended the theory the next day to say that if the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be [...]

In my last post I mentioned the delightful Mistress Rebecca. (She also left comments on my blog recently.) Well she has started her own blog. If you are lucky she will fully describe her real life FLR regime and its developments in the future as evolution continues. So you might want to follow her. Source: Ms Scarlet Watch This Space!

I wrote about this before, a couple of years ago. But recent interactions have caused me to wonder about the prevalence of returning male submissive puppets back to virgin status; never ever again allowed to penetrate their Mistress, or any woman. It is around 11 years now for bitch-boy. For the puppet of my newest wonderful Domme friend, Mistress Nicola, it is 4 years, and for a delightful domestic USA Domme, Mistress Rebecca, I have been recently corresponding with by email, it is about 4 months. (My email correspondence with her, during the period she pondered and then made her decision to return her repeatedly tearful husband to BAVS, and some commentary from me, features as a short entry in the draft of Volume 12 of my journals.) With bitch-boy [...]

I thought I had banged on about nettles until everyone was bored rigid. However I received this question in a comment. P.S. Are you able / willing to share a photo of the type of nettles to look out for please? So I hope this will be a definitive post. The best nettles are bright, bottle green in colour and have yet to flower.  The leaves are close together at the top, which is a fantastic side effect of them being at the right stage; when it comes to whipping or stroking with them. This is the Springtime nettle. These  sting the most by far and the stings can last for 4 hours. As we move to summer the nettles flower, (the strings of bobbles). The colour [...]