It has dawned on me that in civilised countries with equal rights and the rule of law, the BDSM community and the numerous lifestyle relationships there are, must be sustained by submissives rather than dominants. I know both types are required, but if there is a dominant going around tying up and torturing and using and abusing a non-submissive, that would result in an arrest and a prison sentence. But a submissive voluntarily serving and worshipping a vanilla person and pushing and pleading to be dominated by that person is no crime at all. So the dominants can only do their thing when they hook up with a submissive. It is the existence/supply of submissives that allow the BDSM community to exist. It is submissives that convert many [...]

I have committed to publishing my manual in March entitled: Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment: A Guidance Manual. The cover is also likely to include words to the effect of the following text: Not just guidance but a myriad of ideas, techniques and inspirations as well. For beginners and for the experienced. For submissives who want to persuade their partner to become a dominant. For partners of submissives who want to learn to adore dominating their partner. For dominants who want to maximise their satisfaction and ability to subjugate. Nailing that tricky balance between domination time and vanilla time. Applicable to every gender. The point of this post is to seek advice from you, dear followers, on the issue of the manual being Applicable [...]

I came across a clip from the camp, dated, 1980 movie Flash Gordon recently. It reminded me of the BDSM bits of the film which hint that the director may have been seriously ‘in the know’. The outfits and cruel face of Princess Aura. And here is a clip of her momentarily leading her ‘pet males’ on leashes, among other things, (within the first 30 seconds of the clip). Then we come to General Kala. . Here is a clip of her whipping Princess Aura, among other things, (within the first one minute of the clip). So camp! In the film there is also a Lezdom scene of Dale Arden being erotically dressed against her will. I have to say that apart from the [...]

So interesting that I got three comments on yesterdays post and each comment mentioned the same thing. Using a condom after the application of the Linnex Stick to make the ‘burn’ more intense. And one comment from Pat, who I must thank for her contributions, for the suggestion of experimenting with Capsaicin Cream which may ‘burn’ even more than the Linnex Stick! While I am very grateful for these suggestions and will bank them in my ‘future ideas store’, I have to say, given I like to have escalation potential when dealing with a submissive, I currently have plenty of escalation potential with the Linnex Stick; given how small the area of application was in my experiment and how distressing bitch-boy found it. I know the [...]

I mentioned in a previous post, my huge thanks to Christine M for introducing me to the Linnex Heat Stick. Poor bitch-boy is rather less thankful! LOL. I promised that over the Xmas break, Nurse Nasty would run a ‘scientific’ experiment to compare how long a Linnex stick application lasts compared to an application of the Deep Heat Muscle rub roll-on. I ran the experiment over two separate days just to be sure that the one embrocation product did not piggy back on the effects of the other. Bitch-boys sobbing / whimpering was of the same intensity during both experiments and I have concluded the ‘burn’ sensation is just about the same with either product. HOWEVER the durations of effect are quite different. I applied each product to [...]

I have always had in my links section, a link to Petticoating Discipline Quarterly. A site which is updated once each month on the 2nd. Over the years the letters published on the site have been a huge source of inspiration to me for ideas of humiliation for bitch-boy. Up until this month, I have been disappointed with the content of the site for over a year but this month the letters are very enjoyable indeed. Worth a read I think. Some of the significant ideas for me from the site have included;  mincing, the fretting pose, playing with dollies, sissy maids, having 7 identical colouring-in books for bitch-boy, etc. The list of very significant things is almost endless. My published journals.     [...]

I did buy lockable pacifier straps for each of my submissives. bitch-boy’s is exactly as shown in this post. Play-toy’s is plain pink. I can report my submissives each HATE their pacifier straps; so they are a great success. I must admit the Linnex stick was meant to be an Xmas present but I did not have the willpower to wait until Xmas to use it on bitch-boy. (I will be reporting before the end of the week on my experiment.) Play-toy however has yet to experience the Linnex applied to her nipples, but her time will come. I bought bitch-boy a new set of felt pens for his colouring-in with his dolly. This is his third set and his first colouring-in book [...]

One enjoyable pastime I have engaged in is adding colour to the submissive’s genitals. This can be the shaved labia or the shaved cock and balls. Stripes using Henna can be fun and lasts a number of days. I have also used washable felt pens and food colouring for stripes or a total colour change of the area in question. Red, green, blue or orange can be fun. However I have a question as all of the colouring materials I have used so far have one problem or another. Either too dull or they can come off and stain precious fabrics. Has anyone used a bright product for colouring skin which does not have the potential to rub off onto precious fabrics and stain? Source: [...]