We Almost Went Our Separate Ways

It is a desperately hard thing for two people that, deeply love each other, to accept that they have a problem which is likely to end with both parties going their separate ways. I had been with my beautiful wife for three years after dating for around eighteen months. We were happy, very happy, but we used to argue a great deal – we are both very stubborn, we both have differing views on world issues, and neither of us deal with stress very well in all honesty. We coped reasonably well but life can throw you a lot of curve-balls at times. Our debt was spiraling, we worked different hours, one of our elderly relatives needed quite a lot of care for [...]

Husband wants to be a Girl for the Night

femdomtraining: david came up to me the other day and asked (sheepishly) if he could be a girl for a night (and a “badly treated” one at that). Well of course he can! It’s unusual for him to ask this of me, as he is usually very bashful regarding his desire to cross-dress. Usually I have to “make him” (I know it turns him on, I’m not stupid). I think he is self-conscious that he is not a very pretty girl. Well join the club! In fact, he’s right, but I never let on. I always make it a point to tell him how pretty he is. And he’s so bashful and embarrassed when dressed girly, and extra submissivy, so I genuinely do [...]

Our FLR Is Our Treasured Secret

My Lady and I were introduced to each other by a mutual friend who knew us quite well and thought our natural Domina/submissive personas would be an interesting mix. We knew about each other, via our friend, for quite a while before we actually met. The chemistry was certainly right although she kept me at a distance for a few months until she was certain that my desire to serve her was genuine. Her intelligence inspires and motivates me to this day. I’ve always felt comfortable around strong creative, confident women, preferably left-leaning, and my Goddess is all of that and more. Our relationship has endured because we enjoy discussing the nature of it often, finding ways to make it better. We’ve never [...]

Husband slave operates laundry business

I received the long comment below and I thought the account deserved to be the basis of a blog post. It is a little hard to believe the content, but I always remind myself that as there are so many people in the world, statistics mean most things can happen. Out of the three and half thousand, million women in the world, it is a statistical inevitability that a dominant daughter, with a dominant mother marries a deeply submissive sissy, in the circumstaces described. You can decide the authenticity for yourself. Whatever, it makes a good read. First I will explain our situation, I married my husband 5 years ago, we meet at an event dinner and when we where dating he was always polite and [...]

Who is Queenie of Conquer Him?

As I read through the surveys that I collected from dominant women I came across a question that made me smile. One anonymous woman asked: Who is the person running this site? Well, I know that I have mentioned a few of my dating stories here and there but I would like to take the time to really introduce myself. Te-Erika Patterson at the train station in Los Angeles. My real name is Te-Erika Patterson, I have hyperlinked my online portfolio just to save you the time of googling me. I am 36 years old. I have two teenage sons. I studied journalism in undergrad and Marriage & Family Counseling in graduate school. I have been a blogger since 2003. I used to [...]

Talking About BDSM With Your Therapist

— Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis This is not an advice post, it’s a sharing post, partially just to make sense of my recent experiences. I’m dealing with a generalized anxiety disorder, and have been for a long time. Some of this is hereditary, some of this is situational damage from some less than idyllic life experiences. As a result of this, I actively pursue things that help make me mentally healthy and one of them is therapy. Being kinky while getting help from medical professionals, particularly mental health professionals, is an experience that can go many ways- some are well educated on the subject, some open minded but clueless, some have trouble not seeing it as a pathological hangup or a part of your [...]

Day to day regime

I received some interesting feedback on Volume 10 of my journals. The commenter was very generous with his appreciation of the journal but also said that the journal entries are all about the more extreme days and weekends in my life. Which is true because I thought that is what my loyal followers wanted. However he said he would also like to know about the days that are not extreme. The days when I go off to work and bitch-boy works at home. What routines are followed and what rules are in force? So, I will include a full entry on this in Journal 11. Since receiving this comment, I have been jotting down a list of what I will need to include, [...]

Ebook: Submissive Men & The Women Who Love Them

I purchased this Kindle book after learning that it was written as a collaboration by a few of the women in a group I belong to on Fetlife. Submissive Men and The Women Who Love Them by Anna Kochanka and Goddess Victoria Black is a light fiction collection of stories that depict Female Led Relationships, choosing to focus on the people, using the BDSM/kink as an accessory instead of a driving force. It is not too hard to digest and not hardcore erotica either. The description for the book reads: The fictional stories in this book all explore the female dominant/ male submissive dynamic. you will not meet the female equivalent of Christian Gray in these stories but you will meet female dominants who are loving [...]

Conquer Him Community Survey Results 2015

Between October 2014 and October 2015 a community survey was posted on ConquerHim.Com to help identify the readers who frequent Conquer Him.  The survey was posted publicly and the submissions were anonymous. 470 people completed the survey. Here are the survey’s results. Find a detailed graph visit this link COMMUNITY SURVEY RESULTS.   Source: Conquer Him

No Rights for Submissives?

I have been thinking about writing this blog post for a long time. But the concepts to be communicated are so difficult to set out elegantly that I have been procrastinating. However, today I have decided to have a go. Of course a submissive like bitch-boy has no rights under my roof. My domestic tyranny holds sway in all things. What this post is about is the concept of true submissives having the right not to be discriminated against because of their sexuality – in the same way gay and lesbian people have that right – at least in countries where the politicians have the required levels of intelligence and wisdom to be working at creating a civilised society. I hope my gay [...]