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A new Domme friend

Well I am about to spend time again with a new Domme friend I first met a short while ago. This week she is visiting bitch-boy and I and he has the nightmare of being introduced to, and suffering for a new Domme. It seems she is rather more into inflicting physical discomfort and restrictive bondage than into inflicting humiliation, so bitch-boy can look forward to a very affecting afternoon of a different hue to the hours of humiliation and tedium suffering he has been subjected to lately. How exciting for him! I will report back on the event. I fear that bitch-boy does not share my huge enthusiasm for her visit. Poor bitch-boy. LINK to my published journals. LINK to my published BDSM manual. [...]

Not firm-but-fair, its firm-AND-UNFAIR in my household

There is the disproportionate punishment. The sub is sent to tidy the kitchen. The tidying is done and I am feeling like being a bitch so an inspection of the ‘tidied’ kitchen is undertaken. In reality it is perfect, but I behave with incredulous annoyance. although I am acting, my voice carries controlled irritation. ‘Look at the third mug down on the mug tree, you slovenly slut, it is facing a different way to the other mugs; get over the dining table now!‘ A caning follows. It is excessively disproportionate to the crime; and all the more arousing for me for being so; and all the more subjugating for the sub for being so. (And a sub is never more content than when feeling subjugated.) There is [...]

Tribal Solutions To Old Problems

Once upon a time I was assaulted. Three times, the last time I fought back and punched him in the head. I learned like all niafs in the BDSM scene that not everyone respects you. I grew up. I first made a space without him, got braver and called him out. In the mean time he raped someone. Allegedly. Anecdotes piled up. Nothing really came of my honesty. Then he popped up in my other life, as a nerd. Most of the people who deal with this turn to flight reactions, but something about this, and him, turns to fight. I check the people going to my nerdy event and he’s listed himself as interested. I know he is still out there bit [...]

My Manual now available for Nook devices

Link to Nook version of my manual at Barnes and Noble. Links to all the other formats of my manual. Links to all my published journals detailing my day to day life. Source: Ms Scarlet My Manual now available for Nook devices

Cruel Decadence Extended

You may have read in my journals of one decadence I enjoy when Governess Lexi visits me. I find it very decadent to go up to bed for a lovely afternoon sleep for a hour or so. So when Lexi is here for the weekend, I do so and have Governess Lexi ‘babysit’ bitch-boy while I sleep. Well I have devised a way I can have my decadent nap even when I have no one here to ‘babysit’ bitch-boy. Yesterday I was a little tired and poor bitch-boy was colouring-in with his dolly. Just full of both shame and tedium at the same time. Of course, using his hated timer as part of the of activity. I announced I was going up to bed for [...]

LARP Boys & Sexuality

I am awash in LARP boys. I am seriously concerned if I show up for one of the conventions, it’s going to be spontanious bukkake with the amount of attention. Which brings up the same thing I have talked about before, one’s relationship to the voracious desires others have for you. Wildcard remains with a steady rotation of “kitties” some of them closer to him than others, all hands off to the point he likes, harvested from the local kink scene. Occasionally he bats them away from his penis, like small children being kept away from the breakables. He wants their upturned asses to beat, and maybe to jam a hitachi against them until they come. They are invariably at least a smigen [...]

My Manual on Kindle – Amazon, in paperback and ePub format

My guidance manual is now published as an A4 paperback and in ePub format and on Amazon Kindle. Purchase Paperback Purchase in ePub format Purchase for AMAZON KINDLE US UK DE FR ES IT NL JP BR CA MX AU IN It will soon also be on Nook, Barnes and Noble and Apple iBooks. I will publish a post when it is. This manual, of over 115,000 words, is for both beginners and for the experienced. (166 – pages at size A4.) This manual will work for any gender of dominant with any gender of submissive. In section 1 you will find: # A chapter for submissives who wish to find a dominant partner or to influence their existing partner to become dominant. [...]

Guidance Manual now published

My guidance manual is now published as an A4 paperback and in ePub format. Purchase Paperback Purchase in ePub format It will soon also be on Amazon Kindle, Nook, Barnes and Noble and Apple iBooks. I will publish a post when it is. This manual, of over 115,000 words, is for both beginners and for the experienced. (166 – pages at size A4.) This manual will work for any gender of dominant with any gender of submissive. In section 1 you will find: # A chapter for submissives who wish to find a dominant partner or to influence their existing partner to become dominant. # A chapter for people who have a submissive partner and wish to tentatively explore dominating that partner. # [...]

Rubber band tormenting his hardness

A great implement for hotel rooms and other places where quiet torture is required is the humble rubber band. I had bitch-boy with his wrists bound to a collar in a hotel room very recently. He had not cum for sometime. Sitting between his legs I touched and teased and he became so hard, (and desperate – poor boy), I then looped the rubber band, I had brought with me for the purpose, over his little erection, pulled one side of the loop as far away as it would go from the sensitive tube of flesh and then released it. An almost silent nastily stinging contact was made! I repeated and repeated until the hardness was going. I stopped with the rubber band, teased [...]

Rambles and Stream of Consciousness

I feel neither coherent nor productive, so you’re getting a stream of consciousness while I continue my sick leave from gainful employment. What did you do today? I corrected my insurer who flipped my name “Is this Leslie Pearl?” No. I don’t feel particularly good. The stomach ache is abating into nausea instead of immobilizing pangs. I still don’t particularly want to eat anything and carry my mood about like a heavy object. I think dealing with the absolute bullshit I had piled up (double anti-sexual assault shit in two volunteering groups, an absolute imbecile outing me on fetlife, my abusive grandmother popping clogs, a family member having a meltdown on my doorstep and work sucking awfully) explains my worn out state but [...]

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