TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 6). The gift of hope Many of the concerns I have heard from women for the past two years as I have been promoting Domestic Discipine is that its techniques may be demeaning to him, hurt his self-esteem, cause him to be resentful of me, encourage immaturity in him, etc…. On the face of it, it seems a difficult argument to make that punishing, humiliating, and controlling a man’s genital functioning will result in greater self-esteem and psychological health, but it is true. A good place to begin is with an understanding of consensual Dominnant/submissive sexual relationships (AKA D/s). As I’ve said, Domestic Discipipline is not S&M, but [...]

FAQs What follows are examples of some of questions I have been most frequently asked by women over the past couple of years and my responses. This entire web site is actually one big answer to frequently asked questions, but this section deals with a few that I felt needed a little more explaination. QUESTION #1 Dear Vivian, While I am intrigued by this idea of punishing my husband and controlled his orgasms, it feels confusing and self-contradictory. On the one hand, it seems as if you are saying that I should put my husband over my knee and spank him because he really wants me to (that he gets a sexual thrill out of that) and on the other hand you’re telling [...]

TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 11). Getting started I hope the information on this site is enough to get you started with this new and wonderful aspect of your marital relationship. I promised this page on getting started, but I honestly don’t have much more to say on the subject that isn’t already covered in the site. But I will try to offer something helpful here. 1. If your husband has already told you he is interested in trying Domestic Discipline. In this case your next step is easy. Take him up on it! You’ll want to begin by sitting down with him to lay out the rules. The rules may be as [...]

TOWARD A FANTASTIC MARRIAGE: How and why Domestic Discipline works. An essay by Vivian (part 8). About sex The great thing about sex in a marriage that includes Domestic Discipline is that it gets better in whatever way you want it to. Think about your sexual fantasies, the things you’ve never told your husband about for fear of what he’d think of you or for fear that he’d either reject you or the idea. Now you have the freedom to let your husband know what you want in sex without fear. You have that freedom because of his vulnerability. Think about it. He has just allowed himself to be bare-bottomed spanked by you, you have humiliated him, restriced his access to his own [...]