One of the things you can benefit from a femdom relationship the most is, being able to tell your man to drop to his knees anytime you want and have him orally service you.  He cannot say no.  He cannot say he is not in the mood.  Why?  Because if he does, you will punish him in any way you see fit. This relationship benefits both the male and female.  The female gets what she wants when she wants it, and the male learns to get pleasure from becoming sub-serviant to his woman. Win-Win  :)