This post is a result of variety of questions I’ve been asked via e-mail.
Is it possible to achieve the unconditional obedience by your sub? Is it possible to shape him to fit your ideas and avoid any possible topping from the bottom?
Yes it is and these are 10 essential ingredients, like it or not.
1. CHASTITY
Lock his genitals in order to restrict access. Make sure he is chaste most of the time, free only in your presence from time to time. This way, his body parts become your property and he is unable to play with himself, which ALL men do.
2. INSPECTIONS
This might seem like unnecessary play only but it is not. It send a strong impulse to his mind about who is in charge and has unlimited freedom. Do it on regular basis.
3. ROUTINES
Routines are very important, any kind of routine. To begin with, decide upon a daily routine with which he will show his respect and humility to you. Make sure there will be no skipping on routines.
4. DISCIPLINE
This is a complete must, done on daily basis. Discipline is the most essential ingredient. He doesn’t need to “deserve it”, it is simply necessary. Find the time and the will every day.
5. TEASE, EDGING, DENIAL
Having and keeping his balls full will ensure his full attention towards you. It will make him beg and it will make him soft on his mind. Have you tried it for hours? No? Try it. Bigger balls equals more obedience and willingness to do anything for you.
6. RUINED ORGASMS
Your sub needs to cum and he will do anything to cum. You will allow him to cum on occasion but you will also slowly take away his right to have that pleasure. Ruin his orgasms often and make him thank you. In time you could easily have him pleasure-less and without actual orgasms, up to you. Remember, an orgasm is not a right, it is a health necessity. It is not a reward either. Yours are important and only orgasms that should be cherished.
7. HUMILIATION
As bad as this might sound, subtle ways of humiliation are extremely effective. He needs it, he wants it. Do it. Find ways, decide up on them and act upon them. Humiliation makes him more humble.
Then humiliate some more, subtly.
8. USE HIM, MAKE HIM FEEL USED
Sub men like being treated like objects or toys. So that’s just what you need to do, use him for your pleasure and needs and then simply discard him. It’s a play, nothing more but it works just fine. Make sure you train yourself for such acts properly, in order not to appear silly.
9. EMASCULATION & PEGGING
Chastising your sub is the begging of emasculation. Pegging is another great way to emasculate. Make him your bitch, bring out his feminine side. Bringing out his feminine side works beautifully in favor of emasculation. Emasculation kills the ego every man has. Ego is an absolute enemy. A pair of panties will also do the trick nicely.
10. SUB CUCKOLD – DOM HOTWIFE TYPE RELATIONSHIP
If you are interested in this setup, then you already know everything. However, even if you are not interested, even if any kind of cheating repulses you and you just won’t do it ever…still, such a setup is very effective when it comes to humbling and taming your submissive. Cuckolding is 99% male fetish and they are the ones who usually initiate it. Why? I suppose being a cuckold is an ultimate way of submitting to a woman. So, I strongly advise to make such a setup, even if you will never use such privilege. Initiate talking about it, insist on semi-open relationship in which you have the right to cheat, and your sub remains a faithful doggy. In chastity. Wear that anklet, yes. Being flirted with by other men is always a nice thing for a lady :)
Provoke him by sending pics of the anklet whenever you are not together. Tease him about other men flirting with you when you are away. Tell him it is so hard to resist this option. It will for sure make him insane with lust.
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p.s. – do not be afraid of loosing the essential emotion with your sub. After all it was all his idea at the first place, he will just love & worship you more and more and more…
Who thinks this is how boyfriends and husbands should be treated
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While I agree that these recommended steps may work to totally control your husband or lover, they also can destroy the actual love that your relationship may be based on. My lovely wife is definitely in charge, but she definitely tries to allow me some level of respect. And I love her more for it!
While I agree that these recommended steps may work to totally control your husband or lover, they also can destroy the actual love that your relationship may be based on. My lovely wife is definitely in charge, but she definitely tries to allow me some level of respect. And I love her more for it!