femsup-ally:

The below is a totally non-complete and non-scientific list of things we (Men) can do to improve the quality of the lives of the women around us. Some of these items are minor, some require a little more effort. None require extreme action.

If, like me, you agree the world would be much better off governed solely by biological females – these are small steps we can take to help the cause along the way. By making women’s daily lives easier, we begin to lay the foundations of a peaceful, happy, female oriented world of tomorrow.

Please feel free to add to this list, remove from the list as you see fit, just please mention that your list is based from this one. I may add to this from time to time.

(P.S. – Enacting any or all of these warrants no special reward, no prize and no recognition. These should be common courtesies extended to women, by men; to improve their lives and help to try and make up for the piss poor treatment that the entire female sex has suffered for 1000s of years. )

If you work with women:

– Offer to make her/them a tea/coffee; so she/they can continue working. If she/they decline(s) don’t pester and just offer again when you next make one. Never be pushy.
– Clean her/their cup(s)if you do, don’t be lazy.
– Keep the workplace tidy, don’t leave this to the women.
– Complement women on the work they do and thank them for the their efforts. A little thanks goes a long way.
– Don’t bear down or mansplain anything.
– Don’t talk over women.
– Don’t comment on women’s appearance anything other than a polite ‘you look nice today’.

If you employ women:

– Never enforce a dress code you don’t enforce on men (I.E. High heels or make-up).
– Promote and hire women over men when possible, if it’s a choice between two candidates right for the job, choose the woman.
– When hiring women, always push for the most significant pay/benefits package possible for her role.
– Allow fully paid menstruation leave (Min 2 days per month) on top of holidays and sick pay. This should be in contracts with female employees. No equivalent should be offered to male employees (as, you know, they don’t fucking need it).
– Allow women to leave early if they have an issue with children. Don’t hold this against them.
– Ensure there is a safe, strictly enforced women-only space available (ideally accessible using ID cards/security passes only. With penalties up to and including termination for men who enter this space.

If you’re employed by a woman:

– follow her instructions to the letter. She has enough to deal with without you not listening.
– If she asks you to perform minor things outside your duties (I.e – tidy the office, or do a coffee run) do it without hesitation.
– Offer to take charge of any errands she may need running.

In the street/on the road:

– Never wolf-whistle.
– Hold doors open for women who are pregnant/pushing prams or holding bags etc. Expect no reward.
– Don’t stare at women.
– Don’t objectify women.
– Don’t push in front of women in queues.
– Give way to women at road junctions who are waiting (so long as it’s safe and lawful)
– If it’s dark/late and a woman is approaching you, cross the road/keep your distance. Due to rape culture, women report feeling tense in these situations. Make it as comfortable as possible for her.

In the home:

– Men should strive to make women’s lives as comfortable as possible. There are studies that show men THINK they’re doing more in the home than they’re actually doing when it comes to house-care/home cooking/house cleaning and childcare. There’s no such thing as a man doing “too much” around the house, but there is such a thing as a man doing too little (and most men do too little). It isn’t ‘glamorous’ or ‘fun’ but it is absolutely reasonable and necessary. This means men do at the very minimum 75% of the household chores, ideally more. Women have to put up with much more shit at work on a daily basis than men do, she shouldn’t have to worry about doing as much as you in the home.
– If you have kids, make it clear in absolutely no uncertain terms that all major decisions are made by the Female head of the household. Any girls growing up in the household will see female authority as natural and act accordingly, any boys growing up will see this and know to respect female authority in life elsewhere.
– If she has friends over, don’t get in the way. But do make yourself useful.

When raising Daughters:

– Teach them unlimited aspirations.
– Teach them about excellent female role models.
– Don’t enforce über femininity on her, she’ll decide for herself later in life her look/style.
– Take her to self defence classes.
– Make sure she sees the head of the house is Female.
– Ensure she feels safe to talk about anything to you.

When raising sons:

– Teach them to respect and listen to what women are saying. Don’t enforce female supremacy on children, but also don’t reinforce societal roles of Female submission and male dominance. The removal of toxic masculinity begins with fathers and sons.
– Teach them about excellent female role models.
– Make sure he sees the head of the house is female.
– Make sure he feels he can talk to you about anything.

In the bedroom/Sexuality:

– Never pay for sex. The chances of the woman invoked having gone through no abuse/degradation is nil. Paying for sex is paying for the abuse of women.
– Men should never push for sex from a partner, regardless of how horny they are feeling. While trying to ‘come on’ to a partner is of course fine, accept her first rebuttal. If she wants sex, you’ll know about it.
– Prioritise the woman’s desires/fantasies always. Do your best to put aside your own wants for her benefit.
– If a woman has said no to a sex act (I.e Anal) never ask for it again. She’ll let you know if she’s changed her mind and wants to try it. Anything else is pressuring her.
– The woman should dictate what sex involves. Even if this extends to rarely/never having PiV. The idea that this IS sex must be removed from society, it’s merely an act on the massive spectrum of sexual activity (and can be very disappointing to women when compared to female centric acts like cunnilingus).
– Never sexually dominate a woman (even on her request) as much as this appears to contradict the previous point, it doesn’t. The overall goal of female supremacy supersedes the individuals sex lives. The less instances men have any authority over women the better.
– Reverse the orgasm gap. Women are naturally capable of multiple orgasms whilst men are not. It’s selfish and unfair to limit women to one or no orgasm(s) when she’s capable of much more. Sex should never involve a man orgasming and a woman not. The reverse is acceptable.

When professionally dealing with women (serving a table, sales etc):

– Be polite, use ma’am/madam unless you’re told differently.
– Don’t eavesdrop on conversations.
– If she has an issue with your service/establishment – listen attentively, she’s probably been pretty nervous about asking you because of social conditioning.

On a night out
– NEVER touch women without permission.
– If you ask a woman to dance or buy her a drink, if she refuses don’t press the issue. Wish her a good night a walk away.
– Intervene if a woman is clearly on her own and being intimidated by a man / either report or step in.

Generally:

– Don’t tell sexist jokes.
– Don’t wolf whistle.
– Don’t mansplain.
– Don’t intimidate.
– Don’t raise your voice.
– It’s the little things that count: men should regularly ask the women close to them (e.g.: mothers, wives, girlfriends, etc) if they “need anything [else] done?”, or “is there anything [else] I can do for you?”. It’s a good simple open-ended question that can lead to women naming their needs and it doesn’t come across as unusual when asked. It comes across as considerate and polite.

Just to re-iterate, none of these things qualify you as a female supremacist ally. These are good starting blocks though. Let’s make a better world! #FemaleSupremacy

(P.S. – Big thanks to @radfem-femsep-femsup-amazon for her help input and excellent additions. It’s been much appreciated)



An open post, addressed to Men; who consider themselves ‘Allies’ to the cause of Female Supremacy.