Boys at a young age, are taught to respect women, to open
doors for them, to have manners, pull out a chair for her, and over all,
treat her like a princess. And most men follow these lessons right up
until they begin to date a woman. The first couple of dates a man will
court a woman, and just about all women find this incredibly flattering,
they love it, and its often the deciding factor if that man is worthy
of a second third or fourth date.Yet something happens,
after several dates and the relationship has become sexual, the courting
gets less. It may last for several months, but sooner or later, it
begins to decline as the relationship progresses, and before you know
it, the woman in the relationship is now the one that is supposed to be
cooking meals, doing the laundry, and cleaning the house. The chivalry
has died, and the initial attraction often wanes and certain doubts
begin to make, usually the woman, question the status of the
relationship.So how does a woman go from being courted,
doors held open for her, and her needs and desires being attended to….
To suddenly being the cook and cleaner of the house as we see in so many
relationships today? What changed? Where did the chivalry attitude go?
Why isn’t that chivalry attitude always maintained, as a part of
his personality?
By making him wait, as long
as the woman deems
necessary, she decides when sex is possible, which means, he will always
be chivalrous and in courting mode and defer to her. The simplest way
to achieve this to prevent masturbating “cheating” is to put a man in
chastity.
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Chastity
There is nothing sexier than a Woman who
is holding the keys to the promise (no matter how remote) to his sexual
pleasure. She doesn’t have to follow through with that promise; just
give enough encouragement to him that it might be attainable soon.
Men don’t want to be in chastity; they want YOU to put them into
chastity. That small difference means everything! The chastity cage is
the simplest way to ensure that he will conform without little
indiscretions along the way.
The goal here is to make The Lady the object of his sexual desires.
Remove the cock and he becomes just that; less cocky and less sure of
himself because his sexual pleasure is no longer his own destiny to
control. If he knows what is good for him (and believe me, he does) he
now has to defer to the Female who is holding all the high ground, all
the cards, keys and probably his balls in her hand too.
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Male chastity has an almost magical effect on the temperament of a
man. By deferring his orgasm it makes him focus on the woman, her needs, her feelings, her
priorities. They start to listen, understand, empathize. They start
wanting to help, serve, do things for the women without seeking a
reward! It’s as if the reward for them is in the service itself, in
seeing their women happy, comfortable, less worried, more secure, more
confident.
The theory of energy containment is kind of like a boiling water container. When the water
comes to the boiling point, the resulting steam can be very harmful. But
it can be redirected to a benign function, like powering a locomotive,
for instance, or brewing a delicious cup of coffee. The energy of men
can be and has been very harmful. By handing over control of it to
women, which is what female supremacy is all about, we as a society save
ourselves much agony.”
In
order to get the attention you need you deny him what he loves most of
all, his climax. In the beginning you use his
orgasms as rewards. You train him with orgasms the same way a
dolphin-trainer will slip a fish to a dolphin for doing it’s jump. For
example; after doing the appointed chores to your liking, you
tell him he has been a really good boy and as a reward he will be
allowed to fuck you. You get the idea. Women have been using sex as
rewards for thousands of years. The difference here is that he will know
that it is a reward and that you’ll be doing it continuously with him
wanting it to be this way. He will understand that you own his orgasms.
As the relationship evolves you’ll want to make
it harder and harder for him to get his rewards until you find a cyclus
that suits you. In time, if you succeed, this will
become easier and you won’t have to reward him this way with the same
frequency. He’ll learn to appreciate that the true reward is the
lifestyle itself. PS: Taking away his orgasms doesn’t mean that
you have to limit your own. Feel free to have sex, masturbate or use the
man in any way you want as often as you like as long as you
don’t allow him to climax. Involving him in your pleasure just enhances
the effect of the denial. When you’ve had your
pleasure and you’re completely satisfied, make sure you talk to him
about why he can’t cum reinforcing any of his failings. When he’s
extremely horny, be positive and talk about how you really
appreciate his efforts. This makes the conditioning of
his mind go a lot faster.
Thus The Lady will be empowered,
confident and assured in her leadership.
Domesticate
Once
the woman has her man in chastity; she has the deer in the cross-eyes;
she simply has to start pulling the trigger. The
process of getting the man to accept his new role. It is important
for this power exchange in the relationship. The domestication of the
man to take on chores
important for you both: so you feel “in charge” to unleash the hidden
dominant side and for him to
feel submissive and that giving even without reward is it’s own
pleasure. This can easily be achieved in many ways from daily tasks to a
full body massage or foot-spa, pedicures or any number of tasks.
Discipline and Punishment
Regular
discipline should be used to reinforce his position in the pecking
order and his deference to you in the power exchange. Punishment is
needed when his performance isn’t good enough. You
can punish him in a lot of different ways. From simply prolonging the
period without orgasm to a harsh bare bottom caning. You don’t have to
be a sadist but it helps if you can take pleasure in it. A punishment
helps to correct
his behaviour and the fear of them helps him to intensify his efforts
to please you.
There are a variety of methods other than spanking. For instance, this one is like a harsh spanking and corner
time combined. Cuff him and lock
him spread-eagle on his back on the bed before removing his CB. It is important he knows why he is being
disciplined. Rub a generous
amount of toothpaste or Deepheat onto his cock and balls and leave him for about 30 minutes or stay and watch the performance.
When it comes to discipline, use your imagination and
discuss the alternatives with your man. He needs to know what might
happen and fear it.
Spanked to Crying – Almost always the things that men find
most humiliating they will avoid like the plague so crying has got to be
a number one. Be it from spanking, CBT, or any other way most men will
go out of their way not to cry. Their ego demands it.
The act of bending over,
assuming a certain position or having to take down clothing is full of
embarrassment enough to be followed by the blushing and flushing of both
sets of cheeks. Crying from being spanked is a goal for some
Dominants and submissives alike and though very humiliating afterwards at the time they are
past caring whether their ego has been crushed, having been cleansed and relieved.
CBT
– This is can only ever be interpreted as an attack on a
man’s masculinity whether in play, punishment or pleasure giving, so as
such ranks highly in the deference hit parade (sorry about the pun).
Ball tampering: punching, kicking, squeezing all have varying degrees
which can range from pleasurable to downright painful but are guaranteed
to get his attention. This reinforces his inferiority to the Female of
the species who of course isn’t so vulnerable to leave her prime assets
in the line of fire even though they are really stronger than they look.
As such this is probably the perfect punishment
for inattentiveness or failing to come up to standard as are the use of a
dog shock collar around testes and nettles, toothpaste etc. Any of
these coupled with an ruined orgasm or oral servitude ramps up the
humiliation.
Similarly slaves of old would always be under
the threat, real or imaginary, of emasculation. A man is like a
squirrel; will do anything to hang onto his nuts! Of course their Mistress’s wouldn’t sully
themselves with such trivia, they would have a man or women with a sharp
blade for that purpose but today just the threat of such, accompanied
by a little squeezing and wrenching ought to provide the desired result.
“When you have them by the balls, their hearts and minds easily follow.” – British Army
Chaste Pleasuring
– Wearing a Strap-on while being locked
in chastity or a face dildo. This act of giving sexual
pleasure while being denied is one of the oldest, having been performed
in harems around the world by eunuchs for centuries. Performing all the
usual
duties of a man without any of the benefits might be the ultimate
head-fuck but is also a selfless act; this one really is all about the
pleasure of the woman and the fact; like chastity, he is being
controlled.
A warning here this isn’t for everyone’s taste; some women don’t like hard synthetics in their vaginas and some men will gag on the end. You pays your money and takes your choice.
Facesitting or PussyWorship
is one of the ultimate deferences a man can bestow upon a woman. The act of going down on her or being pinned beneath her
puts
him firmly in his place on the food chain (sorry).
Yes, on the face of it (Ooops)
whilst
serving the pussy the slave may also take pleasure but is
placed in about as submissive a pose as one can get and forced to carry
out his lip-service duties while also trying to breathe. His humility is
absolute and if this includes anal his subjugation is ramped up. A
little breath-play here also reaffirms who is really in charge.
Strap-on Worship
A
naked woman standing before a man on his knees has got his attention.
At eye level with her vagina he is like a fly in a spiders web and can
be left in no doubt that her pleasure will take preference. That holds
true also if that lady is wearing a strap-on. It is not the
phallus or the fact that she shouldn’t have one that is the turn on but
the woman on top that is the driver of
desire. The penis is the perceived symbol of power, yet suddenly
here is woman wielding
that power. The role reversal is humiliating and yet beguiling; that is
the ultimate drug. The
physical act itself of putting mouth to phallus might be sexually
exciting too if able to overcome the
deep embarrassment of emasculation by giving him the female role. The
dubious pleasure the Female might feel, if any, would be of power and
control where once again he is postponing his pleasure on her whim.
Strap-on Anal
The taboo of taboos. This has got to be one of the most deferential and humiliating things a
guy could for a woman. Everything to do with the use of a strap-on is the
reverse of all he has become familiar with and is going against his
teaching, genetics, etc.
When it
comes to being physically taken by a woman there is an obvious bonding
with a mental adjustment that would probably be irreversible and
possibly humiliating, which is all part of the subjugation. Depending on
her mood or how her slave has been performing she might determine
whether she goes easy on him or chooses to destroy him. Complete
deference to his Woman would be achieved if he would actually orgasm
from this coitus by anal stimulation.
The whole ritual build up of anal cleansing would also have it’s own
displacing of the male ego.
To Cum or Not to Cum – That is the question. What guy doesn’t like to be edged to orgasm but then being denied. This
is where She is reaffirming that it is The Female in charge. But to be thrown
back in the cage would be very frustrating and very embarrassing especially
after being made to plead to cum and then been denied. Begging to be
allowed to cum takes a man out of his comfort zone, reaffirming her place in the hierarchy.
Your sub needs to cum and he will do anything to cum. You will allow
him to cum on occasion but you will also slowly take away his right to
have that pleasure. Ruin his orgasms often and make him thank you. In
time you could easily have him pleasure-less and without actual orgasms,
up to you. Remember, an orgasm is not a right. It is not a reward either. Yours are important and the only
orgasms that should be cherished.
Whatever happens a man
should be in no doubt whether he is permitted to orgasm. Always make him
ask permission to cum! That is the ultimate deference to his Domina.
By
learning the art of Tantric sex the man will learn to defer his orgasm
altogether for their mutual benefit. Or the couple could choose Karezza
methods where Ladies cum, guys don’t, unless given permission on rare
occasion.
With
all these things in her arsenal the Lady will be inspired by her
new-found powers of control and persuasion. She always had these womanly
wiles but now she is able to channel them to her advantage.
She
is confident and honoured in being given the privilege of leading his
submission and nurturing its growth. She will be humbled and dutiful to
the responsibility
and trust which has been placed upon her, and she will graciously accept
and cherish that
which is freely given and that which she takes.
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