Anyone that says submission equals weakness doesn’t fully understand. There is nothing more beautiful and amazing than a strong man choosing to spend his life worshiping the woman he submits to, because even on his knees, they are both equals.
Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that he and I are still a couple in an intriguing, well thought-out relationship. In public and private he is still my husband/submissive and I his Dominatrix. Sexy isn’t it!
I am the source of his sexual pleasure and if you do not think that will change his feelings you are in denial. Men love their manhood. He will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.
It has enhanced our social life, our loving relationship, our spiritual life. Sounds silly doesn’t it, but it is true and we fit well into these roles.
Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. My dominance does not interfere in other areas though I will find he reacts differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change.
We have consciously chosen an erotic direction. We are wildly open and honest about many things, especially our sexuality. And we are well versed in what a D/s relationship means.
When we first started talking about this “experiment”, I was a little versed, and I stood hard on the Chastity thing. This was absolutely key. Do I torture him with Chastity, hummmm maybe, but I do Tease him with Chastity. Over time, we tried many roles, and still rotate through all of them.
Our favorites are:
Chastity.
Proactively play this and it will absolutely change your relationship. This is mandatory women, show your strength!
Erotica: Strap-ons.
We have always loved toys and this has been a nice surprise. I started with anal play and progressed to strap-ons. They have gotten larger and longer but my husband really enjoys. I do too.
Ruined or prohibited orgasms.
I control when he orgasms. Period. If he violates, there are consequences. Typically, playful consequences, sometimes more chastity, but consequences. The games we play here are, dildo gags, cock sheaths and in most cases this is exclusively for my pleasure but his always enjoys and importantly now, understands my pleasure. He gets fewer and I get more and he is OK with pleasing. He now understands me.
Torture:
Hummmmm. Seems like with increasing frequency and I am sure there is more around the corner. We both like it!
Clean up
If he cums he also cleans it up. For both of us this took getting used to, but now I see it more of a tool of reinforcement.
Friends:
Yes, I have some friends that know, obviously not everyone, and occasionally they have joined.
Worship:
Yes, he worships me. It’s how he talks to me, it’s the respect around others, and it’s the non sexual rubs which he encourages.
Tease and Denial:
This is foundational. I challenge and I flirt. This keeps him on his toes and obedient. He knows I am his Queen and he knows I lovingly own him. I dress to tease him to exploit our sensuality.
Sissification.
We have played here a little, but it is very subtle. I like my man in shape, well groomed, , well dressed, and tightly shaven. No facial hair, little chest hair, and NO pubic hair. Always locked. I love him, but men are men. We harness up his cock, and typically he wears a man thong which he likes. Sometimes I make him put on my panties. With a little liquid encouragement, he has worn my brassieres, and high heels at a party, but all in play.
Forced bisexual.
Sometimes, YES, YES, YES! Two cocks are always fun and you never know what is going to happen!!!!
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This is so very well written.