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faontk:

Your Submission Checklist

RATING
0 = Hard limit, will NEVER do it
1 = Extremely unwilling (will do it under stern orders)
2 = Unwilling (will do it under orders)
3 = Willing (will do it with a suggestion)
4 = Wants to (will do it without prompting)
5 = Really wants to (will ask for it/cannot live without it).

SEX

Anal Sex – Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your anus.

Ass Cheek Sex – The use of the ass crack for male genital stimulation.

Armpit Sex – The use of the armpit for male genital stimulation.

Animal Sex – Sex with an animal (dog, cat, horse etc.)

Breast Sex – The use of the cleavage for male genital stimulation

Cunnilingus – Sexually stimulating the vagina with a mouth/tongue.

Denial – Going without sex often at another person’s command.

Double Penetration – Dildo Sexual intercourse in which two orifices are filled.

Double Penetration – Multiple Partners Sexual intercourse in which two orifices are filled.

Dildo Anal – A non-vibrating artificial phallus in anus.

Dildo Oral – A non-vibrating artificial phallus in mouth.

Fellatio – Sexually stimulating the penis with mouth/tongue.

Finger Sex – Using a finger or multiple fingers for sexual stimulation

Genital Intercourse – Sexual intercourse

Group Sex – Sexual intercourse with more than one partner.

Hand Job – Stimulating a penis with your hand

Including Others – Including others in the physical/emotional aspects.

Licking – Using your tongue on another person’s body

Massage – Rubbing another person’s body for their relaxation.

Phone Sex – Having sexually explicit phone conversations.

Rimming – Sexually stimulating the anus with a mouth/tongue.

Secret Sex (Public area) – Secretly having sexual intercourse in a public area

Secret Sex (Semi-public area) – Secretly having sexual intercourse in a semi-public area

Secret Intimacy (Public area) – Secretly being intimate in a public area

Secret Intimacy (Semi-public area) – Secretly being intimate in a semi-public area

Swinging – Trading your partner/s with other partner/s for sex

Sex Outdoors – Having sex outdoors

Sex Toys under clothes in public – Going out in public with a sex toy (such as a butt plug) in your body, under your clothing.

Teasing – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by teasing the body.

Vanilla – Traditional intercourse without any kinks.

SEX TOYS

Beads – Having a string of connected beads (or balls) inserted in to your anus and then pulled out.

Butt Plugs – Wearing a “plug” inserted in to your anus.

Dildos – Using and/or being penetrated with a non-vibrating artificial phallus.

Love Eggs – Variously known as Ben-Wa Balls, Oriental Love Eggs, etc. Two connected balls that are placed inside the body and either vibrate when you move or are battery powered to vibrate.

Suction Toys – Suction devices used on specific parts of body, namely nipples/balls

Vibrators – Insertable, battery operated that create vibrations for external & internal stimulation

BONDAGE

Bondage Light – Lightly binding or restricting the body. Usually more symbolic than actually restrictive.

Bondage Heavy – Heavily binding or restricting the body, usually to the point where no, or next-to no, movement is possible.

Boxing / Closeting – Being placed in or placing someone in a box or closet.

Caging – Being placed in or placing someone in a cage

Crucifixion – Affixed or fixing someone to a cross or crucifix-shaped structure.

Full Body – Binding or restricting the whole body.

Genital – Binding or restricting the genitals.

Intricate – Intricately binding or restricting some or all of the body.

Mental – Normally done by Hypnotism.

Mummification – Being wrapped or wrapping someone – often in cotton, leather, PVC or plastic wrap- from head to toe.

Outdoors – Restraint Outdoors

Private – Restraint Privately with no other people to see

Public – Restraint in view of others

Restraint in public under clothes – Restraint in public, but under clothes

Restraint Duration: 0-1hr – Restraint duration less than an hour

Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs – Restraint duration up to 3 hours

Restraint Duration: 3+hrs – Restraint duration for more than 3 hours at a time

Restraint Duration: Overnight/Full Day – Restraint duration overnight or full day

Restraint Duration: Multiple Days – Restraint duration for multiple days, more than 1 day

Suspension Vertical – Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, vertically.

Suspension Horizontal – Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, horizontally.

Suspension Inverted – Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, upside-down.

BONDAGE TOYS

Blindfolds – Acts in which blindfolds are placed over one partner’s eyes to remove that sense (and often heighten others).

Body Bags – Restricting the entire body by placing them in a body bag

Duct Tape – Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with duct tape.

Full Head Hoods – Wearing hoods that cover the entire head, leaving only small holes for vision, breathing, etc. (if even them).

Gags ball type – A type of gag that uses a ball to effectively block any verbal communication.

Gags bits – A type of gag that uses a bar that goes across the mouth, much like a horse’s “bit”.

Gags cloth – Using Cloth as a gag to block any verbal communication

Gags inflatable – Using an inflatable devise to block verbal communication

Gags phallic – Using a phallic(penis)shape to block verbal communication

Gags ring – A type of gag that uses a ring to force the mouth open while providing access to the, now undefendable, mouth.

Gags tape – Using adhesive tape across the mouth to create a gag.

Harnessing leather – Wearing clothing that harnesses the body without necessarily covering it.

Harnessing rope – Wearing clothing that harnesses the body without necessarily covering it.

Headphone/Earplugs – Wearing of headphones/earplugs depriving the subject of their hearing (often to heighten the remaining senses).

Manacles – Metal bondage equipment

Masks – Wearing masks that cover the face.

Padlocks – Bondage that involves locks and keys.

Plastic Wrap – Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with plastic wrap (Clingfilm).

Restraints Ankle – Binding or restricting the ankles.

Restraints Arm & leg sleeves – Restricting the movement of the arms and legs by placing them in a confining sleeve.

Restraints Hand Cuffs – Binding or restricting the body (usually the wrists) with [hand]cuffs.

Restraints Leather – Binding or restricting the body, or partsof, with leather.

Restraints Metal – Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with metal.

Restraints Rope – Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with rope.

Restraints Thumb Cuffs – Using thumb cuffs to restrict a person’s hand movements

Restraints Wrist – Binding or restricting the wrists of a person

Restraints Wrist to ankle/neck/waist – Binding or restricting from wrists to neck ankle and waist

Silk Scarves – Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with silk scarves.

Sleep sacks – Being placed in or placing someone in a bondage device, often made of nylon or other stretchable fabric, used to completely immobilize the entire body.

Slings/Swings – Restricting movement by putting them in sling/swing

Spreader bars – Restricting the movement of the legs by connecting them to either end of a bar, usually forcing them open.

Stocks – Restricting movement by placing the wrists and neck (though may involve ankles) through a set of stocks.

Strait Jackets – Binding or restricting the torso and arms by placing them inside a strait jacket.

S & M

Abrasion – Skin scratched, scraped, or abraded by a partner

Anal Dilation – Deliberately stretching the anus open.

Anal Fisting – Placing an entire hand (the term “fist” is often an exaggeration) inside the anus.

Asphyxiation – Temporarily preventing the flow of oxygen to the lungs

Bastinado – Torturing the soles of your feet.

Beating (General) – Acts in which one partner is beaten.

Beating Hard – Acts in which one partner is beaten hard.

Beating Soft – Acts in which one partner is beaten softly.

Beating Back – Beating based acts that focus on the back as a target.

Beating Bottom – Beating based acts that focus on the bottom as a target.

Beating Chest – Beating based acts that focus on the chest or breasts as a target.

Beating Feet – Beating based acts that focus on the feet (usually the soles) as a target.

Beating Genitals – Beating based acts that focus on the genitals as a target.

Beating Legs – Beating based acts that focus on the legs as a target.

Biting – Acts involving biting one partner with the teeth of the other.

Choking – Acts involving restricting or cutting off the supply of oxygen.

Electricity – Using electricity for sensation or pain.

Face Slapping – Slapping the face, usually with an open hand, to cause pain or denote position.

Fire play – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by fire and heat.

Hair pulling – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hair pulled.

Nipple Torture – Acts by torturing the nipples

Pinching – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by being pinched.

Punching – Being punched or punching your partner

Scarification – Deliberately causing scars, often through cutting the skin, for adornment.

Scratching – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by being scratched.

Spanking on all fours – Beaten with a hand standing on hands & knees

Spanking over knee – Beaten with a hand over other partners knee

Spanking hard – Acts in which one partner is beaten hard with a hand

Spanking soft – Acts in which one partner is beaten softly with a hand.

S & M TOYS

Belt/Strap – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a belt/strap

Caning – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.

Clothespins – Clothespins applied to body

Cupping/Suction – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having suction applied to the body.

Cutting – Acts involving the sensations andapprehensions caused by being cut.

Electricity Tens Unit – Electrosex is a sexual practice involving the application of electrical stimulation to the nerves of the body, with particular emphasis on the genitals, using a power source (such as a TENS, EMS, Violet wand, or made-for-play units) for purposes of sexual stimulation.

Electricity Violet Wand – Electrosex is a sexual practice involving

the application of electrical stimulation to the nerves of the body, with particular

emphasis on the genitals, using a power source (such as a TENS, EMS, Violet wand, or made-for-play units) for purposes of sexual stimulation.

Flogging – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.

Hairbrushes – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.

Hot Oils – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hot oil dripped on to or applied to the body.

Ice Cubes (bottom) – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using ice or other cold items on the body.

Injections – Injecting (normally saline) in to a part of the body to temporarily engorge it.

Figging – Use of ginger in ass

Nipple Clamps – Placing clamps on the nipples to cause pain.

Nipple Weights – Applying weights to the nipples, or usually to clamps on the nipples, to stretch them, generally to cause pain.

Paddling Acts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle.

Piercing temp – Exploring the concept of body piercing but in a manner that is temporary.

Piercing Permanent – Putting an object through a part of the body for permanent adornment.

Riding Crops – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a riding crop.

Strapping Full Body – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a strap, full body.

Urethral Sounds – “Sounds” are elongated instruments intended for exploring or “sounding” body cavities. “Urethral Sounds” are inserted into the urethra, often for the purposes of stimulation and dilation.

Whipping bullwhip – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a bullwhip.

Whipping Cat – Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cat whip.

Whipping genitals – Acts in which one partner is beaten on genitals with a whip.

Whipping knotted whip – Acts in which one partner is beaten witha knotted whip.

Whipping switch – Acts in which both partners are beatenwith a whip by taking turns.

FETISH

Abandonment – Being aroused by the idea and/or act of being left behind, abandoned, forgotten, or thrown away.

Acrophilia – Being aroused from heights, in and of themselves, and/or being aroused by sexual or sensual activities at unusual heights.

Acrotomophilia – Being aroused by amputees. This fetish may or may not involve sexual or sensual activity specifically related to the amputated area.

Adult Movies (watching) – Watching of adult movies

Agalmatophilia – Being aroused by statues. This fetish may or may not involve actual sexual acts with statues.

Barosmia – Being aroused from smells

Being Recorded Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act.

Bestiality – Sex with animals.

Boot Worship – Worshiping the boots of another person.

Branding – Burning the body, often with a specific design, to leave a permanent mark or scar.

Brown Showers – Being defecated upon by another person.

Catheterization – Inserting a tube in to the urethra to collect urine.

Chamber Pots – Receptacles used for the collection of urine and faecal matter. (Similar to a “Bed Pan,” these pots were used historically in place of indoor plumbing.)

Cock Rings – Putting a ring or having a ring put, usually made of metal or rubber, around the base of a partner’s cock. “Cock Rings” are often used for increased sensation and erection-duration during sex. This results from the blocking of blood flow to the cock.

Corsets – Wearing corsets which control the shape of the waist and hips.

Cross-Dressing – Dressing yourself, dressing a partner or being dressed in a fashion usually symbolic of the opposite gender.

Diapers – Wearing of diapers.

Dirty Sex – Sexual activity in and around dirt, mud, or oil.

Douching – Using a “Douche,” which is a device inserted into the anus that squirts a liquid, often saline, for the purposes of cleansing.

Enemas – Being given or giving an “Enema” an apparatus used for injecting liquid into the intestine by way of the anus, often for the purposes of cleansing.

Erotic Dancing – Erotic Dancing for Dom

Examination (Physical) Having your body physically examined and, often, appraised. Sometimes this includes medical examination role-plays though, here, that is listed as Role-play – Medical.

Exhibitionism – Enjoying the idea and/or act of being seen in a sexual or sensual context. Opinions vary on this activity. Some exhibitionists wish to be seen by nonconsensual viewers, and some prefer only consensual viewers.

Fear – Fear for You/ Fearing someone

Feathers/Fur – Being aroused by someone wearing feathers/fur

Food Play – Using food like cucumbers in play

Foot Worship – Worshiping the feet of another person.

Golden Showers – Being urinated upon by another person.

Gun Play Scenes that involve the use of guns as props.

High Heel Worship – Worshiping the high-heeled shoes of another person.

Infantilism – Treating a partner as an infant or being treated as an infant. “Infantilism” is an extreme form of “Age Play” and can include anything from role playing and dress-up to diaper wearing and usage.

Knife play – A form of consensual BDSM edge play involving knives, daggers, and swords as a source of physical and mental stimulation.

Latex – Clothing made out of, or involving, rubber or latex.

Leather – Clothing made out of, or involving, leather.

Lingerie – Wearing women’s lingerie.

Medical Instruments – Using medical instruments in play Needles Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using needles on the body, either scratching with them, or poking them.

Oral/Anal Play – Engaging in sexual activity in which a partner uses his/her mouth or vice versa to stimulate and arouses your anus and/or surrounding areas.

Pain – Acts involving physical pain.

Posing for Erotic Photos – Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act.

Prostitution (real) – The subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a male or female prostitute, selling themselves to another person for sex.

Public Exposure – Exposing yourself in public

PVC – Clothing made out of, or involving, PVC (the shiny plasticy material).

Rape Fantasy – Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by another person.

Rape Fantasy Gang- Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by more than one other person.

Recording Scenes – Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act.

Sensory Deprivation – Having the amount of sensory input you’re exposed to blocked or limited. This often includes segregation from other people and activities, and may utilize blindfolds, earplugs, etc.

Shaving – Removing all traces of hair bodily hair

Skinny Dipping – Swimming in public naked

Spandex – Enjoying the feel and look of spandex on others or yourself. “Spandex” is often used for active wear and conforms to the body when worn.

Speculums (anal) – A medical device used to spread and dilate the anus. These are often used in role playing scenes.

Spitting – Being spit on or spitting on someone

Supplying partners – Providing subs for your Dom for a variety of purposes. This activity may result in group play or simply the use of an additional sub by a Dom.

Swallowing Semen – Swallowing the semen.

Taking Erotic Photos – Taking photographs of you or someone else, either naked or indulging in a sexual act.

Tasting Yourself – Sampling your own flavour – most often this refers to either your own semen.

Tattoos – Adorning the body by permanently applying ink under the skin.

Tickling – Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by tickling thebody.

Uniforms – Wearing uniforms that have a given significance.

Voyeurism – Watching someone, often without their knowledge, in a situation with sexual connotations. For example, watching someone undressing or having sex.

POWER PLAY

Begging – Have to beg before something is allowed

Behavior Restrictive Rules – Having rules imposed that govern

behaviour in general, and prevent some specific behaviours. This is often coupled with a “Contract,” which details the rules and is agreed on and signed by all parties involved.

Breath Play – Also called Asphyxiation. Acts involving restricting or cutting off the supply of oxygen.

Chastity Belts – Using an apparatus to prevent access to the genitals and to promote chastity. (Also known as “Chastity Devices,” because of the wide selection of chastity implements now available that do not include a belt.)

Clothing choice – Either choosing for or having your clothes chosen for you by a partner. This can occur in conjunction with “Forced Dressing.”

Cock Worship – In BDSM, any type of “Worship” implies directed affection and emotional and physical attention. “Cock Worship” means taking this special care of the cock of a Dom’s choosing.

Collars – Making someone or being made to wear a collar. For many, “being collared” is representative of a long-term committed relationship.

Collar and Leash – Wearing a leash, attached to a collar.

Competition – Competing with one or more sub or making a sub compete with other subs for the pleasure of a Dom.

Crawling – The act of crawling on all fours to denote submission.

Eye Contact Restriction – Having to whom, when, how, and for what reason a sub is allowed to make eye contact controlled and restricted.

Following Orders – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as they give you specific formal orders to follow.

Food Choice/Directed Eating – Having your food choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal.

Forced Bisexuality – Sexual acts with members of the both sexes, nominally against your will.

Forced Dressing – Being forced or forcing someone to dress in a certain way.

Forced Exercise – Being forced or forcing someone to exercise. This practice can be for fun, for punishment, or in conjunction with other forced behavior and D/s practices such as forced weight loss or other forced physical changes.

Forced Heterosexuality – Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, nominally against your will.

Forced Homosexuality – Sexual acts with members of the same sex, nominally against your will.

Forced Masturbation – Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, nominally against your will.

Forced Nudity (Private) – Periods of time spent without clothing, nominally against you will.

Forced Nudity (Around Others) – Periods of time spent without clothing, nominally against you will with other people present

Forced Servitude – Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, nominally forced to do so against your will.

Given Away (Temp) – Being given, at a partner’s whim, to another person, usually temporarily.

Given Away (Perm) – Being given away, at a partner’s whim, to another person, permanently.

Hot Waxing – Also known as “Wax Play,” this practice involves pouring or dripping hot wax on your sub for a mixture of pleasure and pain. (Remember, coloured wax is hotter!) “Waxing” may also imply the removal of hair when removing the cooled wax.

Housework – Making someone do or being made to do housework. This can either be done in a sexual, sensual way or in a more straight-forward way.

Humiliation (Private) – Acts in which you are humiliated, degraded, or shamed, in a private setting.

Humiliation (Public) – Acts in which you are humiliated, degraded, or shamed, in front of others.

Humiliation (Verbal) – Acts in which you are humiliated, degraded, or shamed, through either the words of someone else (such as name calling) or your own words.

Kneeling – The act of kneeling to denote submission.

Lecturing – An exposition of a given subject for the purpose of instruction or reprimand.

Manicures – Giving another person a manicure or receiving one

Name Change – Renaming your sub or being re-named by a Dom either temporarily or permanently.

Orgasm Control – Having a partner control if and when climaxing is allowed. This control can be practiced for short term or extended periods of time.

Orgasm Denial – Being prevented from or preventing someone from climaxing. “Orgasm Denial” can refer to the denial of climax in the short term as well as for extended periods of time.

Orgasm on Command – Having to orgasm on the command of another person.

Personality Modification – Forcing or being forced or encouraged to change aspects of your personality by a Dom. This is often accomplished through tactics such as punishment and reward.

Pussy Worship – Worshiping the pussy of another person.

Sensation Deprivation – Acts involving depriving the subject of their senses (often to heighten the remaining ones).

Serving Orally – Stimulating a partner with your mouth.

Sexual Deprivation -Preventing someone or being prevented from having sexual interactions. This is often done in conjunction with “Chastity Devices” and “Orgasm Control

Sleep Deprivation – Not being allowed to sleep. “Sleep Deprivation” can result in altered states of mind and may impair decision making.

Speech Restrictions – Restrictions as to what you’re allowed to say

Standing in Corner Have to stand in corner Struggling Being made to struggle against Dom

Symbolic Jewellery – Being given jewellery by a Dom or giving a sub jewellery that represents something special, such as your relationship, your expectations, behaviour modification, etc.

Waterboarding – A form of torture in which water is poured over the face of an immobilized captive, thus causing the individual to experience the sensation of drowning.

Weight Gain/Loss – Forcing someone to or being forced to either gain or lose weight by a Dom. This may be coupled with “Forced Exercise.”

ROLE PLAY

Role Play (General) – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles.

Age Play – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on being a different age (such as babies or naughty young girls).

Animal Play (Cat) – Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a cat.

Animal Play (Pig) – Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pig.

Animal Play (Pony) – Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pony

Animal Play (Puppy) – Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a puppy.

Chauffeuring – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as their formal driver.

Education – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on a scholastic teacher/student setting.

Initiation Rites – Being made to (or asked to) or making someone perform some sort of task or ritual, pass some sort of test or challenge, or do some other symbolic act in order to gain acceptance, approval, or access to something coveted.

Interrogation – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on interrogations where one person is the interrogator and the other the subject.

Kidnapping – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on one partner being kidnapped.

Medical Scenes – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the medical world such as Doctor/Patient.

Physical Examinations – Having your body physically examined and, often, appraised. Sometimes this includes medical examination role-plays though, here, that is listed as Role-play

Prison Scenes – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the prison world such as Sadistic Jailer/Vulnerable Inmate

Prostitution (pretend) – Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a male or female prostitute, selling themselves to another person for sex.

Punishment Scene – Engaging in a scene that bases around the act of punishment.

Religious Scenes – Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the religious world such as confessionals or Bishop/Nun.

Serving as Art – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a [usually immobile] piece of artwork such as a statue.

Serving as Ashtray – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, using a part of your body as a receptacle for their cigarette or cigar ash.

Serving as Furniture – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as an immobile piece of furniture. For example, on all fours as a table or a footstool.

Serving as Maid – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a maid. For example, serving tea while wearing a uniform.

Serving as Toilet – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as toilet.

Serving Other Dom (supervised) – Serving other Dom’s with your Dom present

Serving Other Dom (unsupervised) – Serving other Dom’s without your Dom

Serving (Sexually) – Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, in whatever sexual way pleases them.

Strap on Dildos – Using and/or being penetrated with an artificial phallus that fastens about a female partner’s waist.