The upgrade request page is the automatic page that members are redirected too, when they login.  There is a link under at the bottom of the page that lets you bypass this page to go to the members area.

To check to see if you are actually upgraded, go to the members download page here:
https://www.femdomtraining.ca/membership-downloads-2/

to check to see if there are links under the Gold Membership title.  If there are, you are a gold member.  If you see a message that says you cannot access these files unless you are a Gold Member, then you know you are not.  In this case, please send a transaction receipt number you received from paypal along with any other information that would be helpful in finding your payment info here.

In addition to the login page, there are upgrade buttons, and links in other areas of the site that may not apply to you, so the best check is to go to your members download page to see if you can download gold member downloads.