No matter how fun it may be to read blogs on femdom, and to be in an actual femdom relationship, sometimes there are real problems that arise that have nothing to do with sex that are really hard to negotiate past.

Sometimes the female can be the one that caused the conflict for real.

So what do you do when shit hits the fan and its caused by the woman of the household?

This is tricky.  Because if you are like me, the relationship did not start out this way, and in deep matters which effect the whole family and not just the relationship, it is very hard for the man to back down when he knows his woman has caused the problem.

However, even in my old life before our relationship turned like this, I look back and realize that I have always been a submissive to women.  We would fight, and go back and forth for days over this power struggle over the conflict.

In the end, even if I was in the right, I could not stand the conflict anymore, so I would back down, do whatever it takes, and resolve the conflict.

What choice do you have as a submissive or a non submissive, if your woman will not find it in her to resolve the conflict?

You really have these options, especially if the matter is a very deep one that could potentially end the relationship.

1. Let the fight escalate to the point of no return where you split up.  (maybe if this is a hard issue, this must happen)
2. Keep on fighting until you are both fought out, and bury it to let it fester until the next time the issue arises. (not recommended)
3. Submit to the authority of your wife, even if she is wrong.  (this is hard, but if the fight is not a deal breaker worth breaking up the marriage, then by all means this is the best option)

What I am saying is that if there is a fight over something that will affect the rest of your life (say cuckolding or bringing in other people) and this is a definite deal breaker for you, and she remains adamant, leave the relationship.

If it is a drug or alcohol addiction, and your wife will not seek help, and it is ruining your life, then by all means leave the relationship.

If it is another heavy argument that is life altering and you see no flex on either side, by all means leave the relationship.

If it is a fight that has evolved and will not settle due to ego on both parts, but it is not a deal breaker, then by all means submit.  Give in to her will, and solidify your commitment to be submissive.

To turn it around completely, and to quickly get the relationship back on track, let her know that you love her, and you accept her flaws in the relationship, and that you submit your will, and will accept any punishment for your part in it.  You definitely had some part in it, so take your licks like a man, and bend over.

At this time, if you are the woman, you must fully understand the evolution of your relationship, and immediately show authoritative love for a man that surrenders in this situation, and love on him and give him the absolute adoration and respect it takes for a man to submit at this level.

After all, what is the typical reaction in a normal relationship?

The man stands firm until the woman agrees, and more often than not, the man was probably wrong in the first place.  But even if he wasn’t he has enforced his will on his woman, and usually by leveraging his intimidation, strength, and man superiority complex.

Even if your woman is fragile, and broken from a bad childhood, and makes many mistakes because of the trauma in that time, this is especially the reason why the man should submit.

The man needs to let the woman know that if it isn’t a deal breaker, that he completely surrenders his will in the name of keeping the household in order.  Someone has too, and in a femdom relationship, this is the man.  There is a good chance that you are in this type of relationship because of early childhood issues with both of you, and by surrendering power to her, you are helping both of you resolve issues that go much deeper than the current argument.  You are setting up a new pattern of conflict resolution that will bring you closer after each time a serious conflict arises instead of driving a bigger wedge between you.

True conflict resolution in any type of relationship usually will involve one person with greater levels of compromise and understanding of the other persons actions to be the person to end it through means of love and submission.

Pick me.  Conflict with your woman sucks.  It is draining on everyone, and no one wins.  Bend over, take your spanking, your ass fucking if she so desires to establish herself even stronger as the dominant, and accept your place at her feet.

Fuck this can be so hard at times, but do it, in the name of preservation of something more wonderful than any other couple can imagine.