Below is a guest post from Debbie with advice on how to get started in a FLR. I read through it and think her advice provides great guidelines for moving forward in a FLR. Thanks Debbie for your contribution. -Mz Kaylee
Many women ask how to get started in an FLR, especially when they see how obedient and loving David is to me and to women he encounters at home and in work. Many men crave having a woman in charge but are afraid to raise the issue. Women often sense a man’s submissive inclinations but fail to seize the opportunity to take control. How does one put the wheels in motion? Well, in every situation we’ve encountered it’s the woman who recognizes her submissive husband’s desires and takes charge. A woman friend, Diane, seeing how well David behaved and told me she wished her Jim would be better behaved. Sensing that Jim had submissive tendencies, I told her that all she had to do was assert herself and I could almost guarantee that she and Jim would be on the path to an FLR, Based on my experience with other couples and with my David I gave her some advice and even had David come in and attest to his complete satisfaction with my being in absolute control.
Girls, start small and as he acclimates to your authority accelerate the pace of your control. In our case David, like most men, is excited at the prospect of my having control. I was excited when David told me he wanted structure and routine in the relationship and I was only too happy to oblige him! I immediately started putting a set of rules in place. What kind of rules? Well consider the following:
1) Obedience – David recognizes that I am in charge and have ultimate authority. I may, MAY! consider his opinion but I am the ultimate authority and will make all decisions if I so choose. I give orders; I don’t make suggestions or give choices. I order, he obeys!
2) Deference – David shows women respect and deference, not only at home or with relatives or friends but outside the home, too, in public and at work. It’s “Yes, Ma’am” or “No, Ma’am”, NEVER “Yeah” or “No”. Women are to be addressed a “Madame” – We don’t use ‘Mistress’ since I consider that to be the stuff of male fantasies and not conducive of an FLR. His deference extends to my family and girlfriends. He learned how each woman wanted to be addressed and complies with their wishes. My sister is Ms. Charon and my girlfriend, Paula, is Ms. Paula. Madam is always appropriate, for example, Madame Paula.
3) Housework – David was put on notice that he would eventually be doing ALL the housework, wash, iron, clean, vacuum, look after my wardrobe, and so on, Women have to invest some time instructing their man on how to do housework but it’s a good investment on their part. David, as are most submissive men, was a quick learner and in short order he had a regular routine of housework that he loved. It took surprisingly little time before he was not only doing housework but doing it to my complete satisfaction! As he mastered household tasks I added more, a prospect that excited him. I don’t do housework any more; my submissive hubby does it all! YES, ALL of it. He has a set routine of work every day of the week that includes serving me, my family, and my woman friends. I allow David some free time every day but ONLY if his housework is done. You can imagine what his doing housework does for me; I can relax, read, watch TV, go out with my girlfriends, or date – yes, I date. I decided to start dating when one of the guys in the office started asking me out – David has no say in the matter.
4) Finances – I advise women contemplating an FLR to quickly take control of the couple’s finances; doing so will solidify your absolute control! More on this later in a post that I will dedicate to this important aspect of an FLR.
5) Discipline. Women should accept the fact that, from time-to-time, they will have to discipline their husbands. Women do themselves AND their husbands a favor when they administer discipline, but more on this in a future post.
6) His friends and leisure activities – Women should be in absolute control of her man’s hobbies, friends, and outside activities. Women are sometime reluctant to exert control but her doing so is beneficial to the FLR. You don’t want hubby going out with ‘the boys’ and having bad patriarchal attitudes undoing the rules and routines you’ve spent so much time putting in place. Again, more in a future post.
His reward? Know he is pleasing me and living a rich, submissive lifestyle. You’ll be amazed at all you can accomplish in a short time.
Debbie
Getting Started in a FLR (by Debbie)
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