Guest Post: "The Thrilling New Norm" by Mike

I thought I could add and contribute with a post, in part, also regarding some of the previous topics.

Some of my expectations and ” jobs” on the WLM household come rather naturally. Perhaps this is just my demeanor and personality. Much hasn’t changed, in some aspects, after commencing the WLM lifestyle. The communication and expectations of my role is clearer though. I simply like to serve her and she naturally likes to be in charge/ in control. Some main points are:

Household

– I do the house cleaning. She may do so too at times because she likes it a certain way. I do her laundry, buy groceries and drive her when needed. Her breakfast and coffee made. Those are the main ones, I’m sure there are more.

Finances

– She is in control of all money. While we both work, she spends as she pleases, from my income as well.

– She has several credit cards. I have none. I have just one debit card. She will get a bank alert if I spend more than $50. I must ask permission or have a good reason if a purchase is more than that amount , besides groceries. She can purchase anything, anytime, with any amount.

Sex

– This was probably the main reason we started WLM. I used to demand/request it with out any regard to her feelings.

– I’m not allowed to ask for sex. I can’t ask when or request how I would like it, such as positions, blow job, etc.

– I’m not allowed to ask when/ if I may orgasm. She mostly doesn’t see the need for me to.

– When she wants sex, she will be direct and say ” I want sex”. It’s never ” would you like to”, ” are you in the mood for” or ” let’s have…

– She’s direct in that there’s no foreplay. Usually, she’ll direct me to go down and give her oral to start. After she’s satisfied, she’ll give me a command for me to enter her.

– She’ll give direction on how fast/slow and position.

-When she’s finished with sex, she’ll simply say, ” thank you, I’m finished” and will get up and get on with her day. Or she’ll push/ nudge me away and she’ll say ” thanks, I’m done” with a kiss, turn over and will go to sleep.

Much of this seems very transactional.

My mouth and cock have a simple purpose for her, to give her as many orgasms as possible, as much as she wishes. I’ve started to say ” thank you for the privilege” after. Because it is an honor and privilege to share those moments with her.

As many have previously mentioned, that self pleasuring is not allowed. Since that training and mindset has been in place for so long, edging and ruined orgasm has been surprisingly more difficult, as the feeling is much more foreign and less desirable. It’s strange. We may move to no orgasms for me altogether. She’s been clear she does not like the cum due to smell, texture, cleanup etc. So cum in her is off limits. My subspace mindset is evolving to where I feel bad or don’t desire to cum in her as if it’s I’m defiling something I feel is sacred and a privelage. I thank her Everytime we’re intimate because I see it as a privilege. Perhaps this is where cuckolding concept in part, comes from. While I enjoy sex, all my attention and focus is on her and to ensure she is pleased and satisfied as many times as possible.

Our day to day lives seem simple and probably very ” vanilla”. I do ask her if there’s anything I can do for her. Sex seems more of “icing on the cake” or the bonus to the relationship.

For me, I’d say sex is a great incentive and always on my mind. But for her, I don’t think it’s a top foundational tenet for her WLM. I believe she enjoys having someone listen and follow her directions more. She enjoys being on control and making the household decisions.

Communicating and serving her day to day is what I think she values most.

Moreover, I’ve encouraged her to be more controlling. I’ve encouraged her to have more male/female relationships. Such as her go out on the weekends to socialize… While I stay home and tend to house necessities. But as mzkaylee mentioned, that’s typically an ongoing challenge to find that balance.

Feel free to comment and give suggestions and share thoughts.

-Mike

Guest Post: “The Thrilling New Norm” by Mike