LIANA, MY FIRST KAREN

What’s the niche for men with submissive tendencies? What’s the prime “target”? What kind of lady is most in need for a submissive (help)mate?

I would propose…

Karen. Especially a divorced one.

Yes, we’re talking about the Karen of internet lore. “She’s a Karen” – it has become a caricature of entitled, white suburban women. But take out the theatrics, and of course the race –there are plenty of Asian and African, etc., ladies to serve — and…I think we found a match here. Look at some of the examples from Internet:

1. “Wants to speak to the manager”.
2. Demands discount.
3. Status-sensitive.
4. Doesn’t take lame-assery well.
5. Gets her way.

ANY submissive man will turn his head when seeing that kind of behavior.

I speak from experience. I met Liana online on a site. Her ad’s heading:

“I seek an aide / valet / servant / slave.”

The rest of the ad mention the need for reliable and docile service, and that a romantic relationship was not to expected, although it couldn’t be ruled out.

Let’s face it, a dream for any hardwired submissive. Liana and I forged a very successful arrangement (I would not necessarily call it a relationship, seeing as how top-down as it was, and how much it centered on the domestic interests of Liana and her household). Liana turned out to be a Karen. As a divorcee with a daughter, this go-getter decided to take the bull by the horn and get herself a servant to keep her (rather big) home tidy for her.

So, gentlemen, based on my experience: seek a Karen – a divorced one is probably best, and something like 5-10 years older. As men mostly one accept their submission around their thirtiest year, we’re talking about ladies of 35-40 years old or older.  

During my two years of service to Liana, which were mostly dedicated to the cleaning of her house and the maintenance of her garden, I noticed that our compatibility was remarkable and I attribute it to the following “Karen-factors”:

1. Karen Wants Status

Let’s face it, divorced or not, most women who are available at that age are either divorced or their long term relationship stranded. Ladies do not always get out of it unharmed. It brings with it scars. For Liana, who was indeed divorced, it felt great to show me off to her neighbors. To know that a fit, middle aged, younger man was regularly seen around her house and garden  – “Liana got herself a boytoy.” Perhaps she “used” me in that sense to show off perhaps even to her ex (whom I never met, thankfully). Karen wants and deserves the visible status that a younger boyfriend brings. You are excited by her assertiveness. Both parties are happy. Ka(ren)-ching!

2. Karen Knows What Needs Done

Karens, especially with children, have a lot of life experience. They know what to do, and, with you in the picture, know what needs done — and have no qualms about telling you so. Younger men thrive under that kind of directive attitude. I did. I was always excited about the well-thought through tasks Liana made for me and her direct instructions. During my shifts in her home my last job was always to clean the toilets because,as she explained, she didn’t want me to around after that dirty job. That practical, brazen, result-centered attitude of hers worked out great! I admired her for her clear instructions and knowing how to make the most of my service — and learned from it. Thanks Liana, for unleashing your inner Karen!

3. Karen Will Tell You If It’s Not Alright

As Liana had warned me, her instructions would have to followed to the letter. She actually told me that one of the reasons to seek a submissive guy such as myself, is that she could be more direct and demanding with me than with her cleaning lady. Karens have the experience and command (having dealt with school boards, irritating clerks, jerky children) to not let a slouch get a way with slouching. Gosh, did she sort me out! It took me several weeks to get the hang of how to vacuum her living room and bedroom (Liana is allergic to dust) and I must admit I was frustrated at times about having to do it all over again. Yes, the famous trick — “would you run your finger over that headboard and see if there is dust, Frank?” was really used. Our first weeks saw Liana standing over a kneeling Frank, who learned how to vacuum the edges carefully, and who learned to realize the importance of vacuuming SLOOOWLY — “the trick is to get the dust, Frank, and not get it over with. Brusque movements only stir it up.” She would not back down — I knew that Liana, as a mature, experienced woman, held up standards. I knew a job approved by Liana was indeed a job well done, that I could be proud of.  Thanks for Karening, Liana!

4. Karen Will Settle Some Scores With You (Don’t Take It Personal — She Needs It)

As said, divorces or stranded relationships can me messy and feminine feelings can get hurt. And society doesn’t always appreciate the assertive woman. There is tension. It works wonders to let her have a go at you for that reason. Call it male atonement. Liana could be bitchy, and sometimes she would be unreasonable, but I never rebelled. Partly because it’s silly to rebel against a leader who you actually kinda want to be that way to you (within the limits of law and safety of course), partly out of respect for her authority, and of course submissive loyalty, but also because I always understood that she needed time to let off steam and to reestablish a newer, better, understanding with the male gender. If that needed taking some punches, so be it. Be firmly establishing herself as the head of the household, and making sure that on no condition talkback was allowed, Liana and the male gender reconnected on better terms than perhaps was the case before. A tremendous additional benefit was that her relationship with her daughter, who at that time still lived at the house, improved. By seeing Mom bossing this not-unattractive younger man around, her respect for Mom increased. Valerie found me weird, sure, in the beginning, but as she began to trust me more as a reliable servant and “friend of the house”, thawed. I wasn’t some freak. I was an asset, and her respect for her Mom for successfully recruiting me to do her bidding increased. Her relationship with her Mom really improved. Mom had it going on, and as any sociological expert can tell you, if people see other people treat you with respect, they will, too. Nobody does being bossed around better than we submissives, which makes us ideal for Karen. I consider this perhaps my greatest lasting contribution to Liana’s household: Mom ascended the throne. Became a kind of tiger mom. And the daughter blossomed, too. I was real proud of being the catalyst, or even the anvil, for Liana’s improved relationship with her daughter. Liana Karened up, and I was part of that!

The dynamics between Liana and me apply to, I think, thousands of happy couples and arrangements. But there are thousands of happy Liana & frank style arrangements and relationships out there that are waiting to be materialized!

So as ladies are welcomed to seek their inner Karen, men are invited to seek an outer Karen. Seek a Karen on a matching site, but also, seek her in real life! Hold open doors for female colleagues and see who does not thank you (or only with a slight sneer). Might be a Karen! That lady who treated you condescendingly at the shop where you work? Try it out. Be extra courteous and apologize (but don’t grovel). Go out of your way for her!

The unprecedented courage of Liana to post her bossy ad resulted in a beautiful and affectionate, if strict, arrangement that lasted two years (for us both), two years of free service (for her), and an honorable role as her housekeeper-plus (for me). I was her servant, sometimes-boyfriend, cleaner and handyman. The fact that Karen dismissed me when she decided to pursue a romantical vanilla relationship with somebody else…is not relevant here. Liana was “my first Karen”. She primed me, set me on my road of submissive service towards ladies, and I couldn’t be more thankful.

To all the Karens of the world: there is an army of men wishing to serve. To paraphrase the X-Files: The servants are out there! We love you, Karen!