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If you have been wanting your wife to dominate you sexually and in other ways, then hold on and read this article as it may effect your life dramatically in achieving your wildest fantasies.
Recently I asked a question to someone that seemed to identify to my particular situation, and this person is struggling very hard with his submissive fantasies and desires with no outlet as his wife refuses to participate.
2 years ago, this was my EXACT situation. Now I am living the dream femdom lifestyle and it has shaped into EXACTLY what I was envisioning where my wife is very greatful for having the fortitude to see this through for us to grow as a couple.
Our life is now blissful and our marriage over coming up 20 years is better than ever and we are stuck in a falling in love state of marriage that almost all marriages lose shortly after getting married and having kids.
Our kids are still home, and we live this lifestyle quite stealthily as we both work from home, and have plenty of opportunities while the kids are in school. In any event, this article and what I am about to share with you can help you gradually transform your life to a completely non-interested partner, to a partner that is so sexually charged, that she wants more sex from you than you have ever had, on her terms, quite confidentally.
Seem impossible? It did to me too, but I made it happen when I learned how to induce this behaviour from my wife with no pressure, and no fighting about sex.
Not at first though.
You see, one of the things you are doing all wrong is the way you present your ideas to her.
I guarantee that any of you that are reading this have been completely rejected by their wives on the femdom lifestyle is because of how it was presented to them. Even if you got it started and were on the right track, somewhere along the line you blew it. I know why, how and what to do about it.
I know EXACTLY what to do, and if you follow this to the letter, I am very confident it will work for you because my wife was about as dead opposed to this lifestyle as a person can be, and now is living it, loving it, and would not EVER go back.
Yes, sometimes she is stretched beyond her comfort zone, but she is gaining more power and confidence with each passing day due to my undying love that I have converted to TRUE submissiveness that will get any woman wet, even if they think its not their thing.
Here is how you start this.
- Read these daily affirmations to start your day everyday. Read them quietly to yourself, or in front of a mirror but make sure it is private.
- Everyday offer to help her clean up the house, or if you see her running around the house like women do picking up after their kids, and you, ask her to stop, sit down, and that you will take care of it.
At first this will seem odd, and she may even resist and might not even let you do it all. If thats the case respect this, and just let her know you love her and want to contribute more around the house. If she thinks you are up to something, that is because in the past you were. The new you that is going to make your dreams about to come true, is about to obey his wife, honor her, cherish her, lift her up onto a pedestal, put all her needs ahead of your own selfish motives, and truly submit to her.
Everyday, at every opportunity you give her this, offer her this, until she breaks down and accepts your offer. You then keep on adding more of this to your daily routine, and gradually start cooking, or learn to cook, and contribute more and more on a daily basis until she is completely comfortable with this and allows this to happen. You see what is happening is that you are changing. You need to change to make your dreams come true. You need to truly submit and to let her get comfortable in letting you and even teaching you to do the chores.
Do this as long as it takes.
DO NOT HAVE THE ATTITUDE THAT IF SHE DOESN’T START DOING WHAT I WANT, I AM NOT GOING TO KEEP THIS UP.
This could take a week, a month or several months, but if you never ask for anything in return, and you stay consistent you will have already created a state of mind in her that you are obedient. Already, your sex life will be better. It might not be into the fantasy part you are craving just yet, but your relationship will be stronger than ever and you are entering the phase where things begin to happen.
Step 2 – This will virtually apply to all men here, because lets face it, we are pigs.
If you watch pornography and your wife knows about it, it is time to change this habit and you are going to have to have an honest conversation about it. Explain to her that you love her very much and that is the reason you are contributing more and doing more and that you in fact want to become an even better husband and that you need her help to do it.
You will need to buy a male chastity device, and we have assembled some great ones here. I recommend the CB-6000. It is a great device that is good for longer term wear and it will adjust to your size.
Do this right away, because it is essential for your success in our whole program that will transform your relationship into a femdom relationship.
Wait for the package to arrive then proceed to next step.
Confess that you watch pornography (as if she didn’t know already) but state that you want to stop watching pornography as you feel it is destructive to your relationship, and that it demeans you, and apologize for how that must make her feel. Let her know at this point that she is more beautiful to you than any of the woman in what you watch, but that you somewhere lost your way and that you want to find your way back. By the way, all of this is not a game, this is the reality if you want to make this happen. You need to be better to make your woman reach a state of mind that be be conducive to your fantasies.
Lets face it. You fucked up. You are the only person to blame for not living the life you want with your wife or partner. Your actions made it, and your actions will fix it and make it better than ever.
Even if she doesn’t believe you, you need to sincerely apologize and tell her that what you are saying is true, but that you may have an addiction, and you truly want to stop.
Say that you cannot do it on your own, and produce your CB-6000 male chastity device that you bought.
Explain to her what it is, and that you wish to be locked up at least until you can learn how to control your addictions and not masturbate. Accept her dazzled look, and empathize to her that you understand how weird it looks, and how strange it is, but that you really want to stop watching porn and masturbating to improve your relationship with your life.
She can either blow you off and say whatever or embrace it. If she says ok, lock yourself up, hand her the key, and say thank you. At this point, this would be great time to give her full body massage, and make her feel like the changes in your life are definitely for the good.
They are.
If she rejects this idea, at this point she will still at least appreciate the changed husband you are for what you contribute to the house, and be more accepting of what you do next.
If she does not want to just say, ok, I understand, it is a bit weird, but I don’t trust myself, so I am going to lock myself up and put the key here. Even if I know where the key is, this will help me not do it. This is not forever, this is until I have beat my porn and masturbation habit.
Then follow through and do not watch porn or masturbate. Within 3-4 days, you will be a completely different man. If you have done this already in the past, you know what I mean.
Continue this until she gets used to it. Still have sex when she wants it, never push for sex, mention any fetishes, desires, or bring anything like that up. If she ever wants to talk about sexual things, but all means, and be truthful of anything she asks you. Whatever you do, do not ever use terms like femdom, bdsm, spankings, or anything like that. These things will progress as long as you are doing everything that I have said so far without any expectation of anything in return.
Put months into this if needed. Do whatever it takes to prove to your wife, that you want to be everything a man could be for your wife. Take weeks, or even months before you proceed to the next step below.
Setting the Stage Part 2
Ok, so now some time has elapsed and you have followed the instructions above to the letter. If this is the case you should have drastically changed things for your relationship and things should be better than they have been in years.
Now, you want to take this to more of a permanent basis and get your kinky sex desires met.
This can be the tricky part so handle this delicately, and above all remember patience.
Explain to your wife that you would like to sit down with her and discuss your relationship and ask her for a time where she can commit to a half hour or so of intimate discussion about your life together.
Once you are in this discussion, start by saying something like:
“I have really enjoyed our relationship and I feel closer to you than ever, how do you think things are going?”
The important thing here is to work on getting her to admit that life has been a lot better with your extra help around the house and your increasing attentiveness to her. There is no doubt that this is true if you followed the above instructions in Part 1.
Once she has agreed that life is better, explain that you have really enjoyed the chastity and felt it is the biggest single contributor on your side of things that have made you change for the better for her.
Say that you have really enjoyed the control of chores and overall find that by being more compliant to her that you believe your life is better.
Explain to her now in a very loving manner, that you came across a website that encouraged you to become a better man for her, and that what you have been experiencing is just a small taste of how good things can be between you.
Say that regardless of what you think of this website, I am going to continue to be the best husband I can to you, and to constantly improve the way I treat you, and am in this relationship.
Then tell her you would like to send a link to her on this website you found and send her to this page.
Let this information digest for a couple of days, but keep on being more submissive, and up the massages, foot rubs, chores and everything you do around the house. Make it very clear to her in your actions that you are a better husband. Period.
After a couple of days elapses it is time to have a follow up conversation. If she asks to talk about it before then, this is a great sign. Of course discuss anything freely with her whenever she asks. If not, in a couple of days ask her to sit down and talk again.
Get her feedback on what she thought of the information you sent her. Get a discussion going about it, but never force, push your opinions. Genuinely listen to her. I am sure at this point she has some concerns and instead of trying to convince her that her concerns are not valid, empathize and say that you understand. Let her know there are things about this lifestyle that scare you too, but deep down you feel that if it has already impacted your life this positively that you really believe that you both are deserving of a better relationship, and you believe that this is the key. You may be wrong, but that it is worth trying.
This is where you really have to have some self assessment and don’t push that hard. If you are already in a level 2, and you want to be in a level 4, then it would be a better idea to try activities in level 3. Do not tell her that you want a level 4. Say you would really like to try some of these things in level 3 to see the impact on your submissiveness and to see if it really does the things that all the research you have done says it will do.
Once you have opened this door and she participates, make sure that your behaviour after she has obliged your fantasies is at an all time best behaviour. At this point it would be a great idea to be the best submissive you can be 24/7.
It is likely at this point you have opened the gates.
From here on out, it is just about open discussion, communication, love and obedience. If you do these things you can take this to whatever level you want, but remember to take it slow and never to push the pace with her. That is topping from the bottom, and your relationship will never go to where you want it until you TRULY submit to her will. Even if she doesn’t ever come around to help you with your kinky fantasies, your life is already better and more connected than ever. However, if you have done everything in this article, you should be well on your way to the femdom relationship you have always dreamed about.
Another way is for the woman to listen to FEMALE DOMINANCE HYPNOSIS.
Here are a few titles.
After you have read this whole page and implemented everything on it, you need to get your wife involved by sending her to this page.
https://femdomtraining.ca/women-learning-about-their-partners-fantasies/
nothing here, I don’t think i’m the only one here who realy wants to know this
Where is this article, Mistress? i don’t think i’m the only one here who realy wants to know this. Please, Mistress.
Looks like auto software we used deleted original… will have to rewrite again at some point
An archived copy of the article is at http://web.archive.org/web/20141208064552/https://www.femdomtraining.ca/how-to-get-your-wife-to-dominate-you/
This is the article I want the most please fix so I understand what I am doing wrong
robert.abbott1, the article you want is archived at http://web.archive.org/web/20141208064552/https://www.femdomtraining.ca/how-to-get-your-wife-to-dominate-you/
As a submissive male escort this article is very valuablr for me ..Iwants to please my clients mostly ladies and couples
How long are the affirmation periods last before you graduate to level 2
Until your behaviour matches the affirmations automatically.
This actually helps alot in better
understanding things.
Thank you.