As a follow-up to my post on ‘Mindless Slave vs. Productive Slave Companion,’ I’d like to share an excerpt from another author’s post on female led relationships. I came across this post the other day and thought it was a very fitting example:

The author goes on to say that she ultimately ended the relationship because of her boyfriend’s extreme passiveness. This really hits home the point I was making in my previous post, that I want my husband to be a companion and not a mindless slave. My husband is submissive but that does not mean he is incapable of making decision and having adult conversations with me. He is capable of doing things on his own and to satisfy me without always being told what to do or having to be punished or motivated by me every step of the way.

When a wife gets caught up in the lifestyle it is easy to find herself doing more commanding than leading, especially when she is taking cues from her husband or being “topped” by him. Most submissive guys are going to embrace this approach because it is their ultimate fantasy to shirk all responsibility and simply be controlled. However, as the example above illustrates, this is not sustainable for the woman. Overtime it becomes burdensome for her and he turns into something that she does not desire.

My advice to women who are embarking on or involved in a WLM/FLR, is to ensure you are leading the relationship and not just commanding it. Leaders empower and motivate others to do things for them. That’s the approach you want to employ in your relationship. Giving commands is an important part of the WLM relationship and reinforces your power over him but it should be secondary to leading. Lastly, envision what would be the ideal husband/partner for you and use that as your guide for how you train and shape your partner each year.

As a reference, below is the link to the article I cited above.

https://thinkaloud.net/2018/02/02/everything-you-need-to-know-about-a-female-led-relationship/

-Mz Kaylee