I think to have a sane society based on Female Authority and modeled after Female Role Models, Girls and Women should be encouraged to lead, be outgoing and even somewhat competitive (but the Female way is that of cooperation, not competition, so not too much on that one).  

Females are to be taught from a young age to aspire to be more, to think of themselves as leaders.  This is already happening.  Most college degrees are earned by Females, for example.  

I think males should be loved, cared for and … taught to please Women.  Even if you think you should not force the Femdom lifestyle onto others, and I would totally agree, I think Femdom will ultimately expand to become one day mainstream and maybe one day even a majority or plurality lifestyle.  I totally think this is achievable and we shouldn’t strive for less than at least go mainstream.  

So even if you don’t think all males will want to live in a Femdom society (that’s also true of all Females), should males have the same roles in a Femdom society than in society at large?  

Of course not!  

I think acknowledging this is the cornerstone of Femdom!  You just CAN’T have Femdom and the same roles as vanilla society – it just ceases to be Femdom!  And the key is this; inequality.

Western society is very much built upon the ideas of equality. Equality, however, has a downside.  People are not the same.  One thing is to be valued, and another is to be the same. Males can be loved, valued, and have great lives. They can be rich, happy, and very free.  

However, part of this freedom is the freedom to be who they truly want to be.  Some males, and it’s probably true of all males who genuinely are oriented towards a Femdom lifestyle, don’t want to be equal to Females!  They thrive being the inferior of Females and, guess what — IT’S TOTALLY OK!  It’s VALID!  There’s nothing wrong with that!  

So know this for sure, your male is your inferior. You are superior to him.  And it’s OK! Relish your Superiority and his inferiority together.  It creates intimacy, sane gender roles, and puts a lot of pressure off of your male to be something he’s not – your equal!  

To me that means relegating males to a second status. In Femdom, males should have a say!  Yes, they are human!  But should they have a vote?  Most often not!  They have a voice, not a vote, most of the time.  I think even politically, it’s a fabulous rule for a Female Led household that the males in it don’t cast a ballot (yes, you read that right – that males don’t vote as in real elections for politicians). I envision the day when there’s a movement where males are encouraged not to vote – and hubbies should participate in it openly. I don’t know how ready society is for that just yet, but start by having him bake cookies in preparation just in case (because, of course, the boys in that movement will be more persuasive if they hand out cookies, so have him start baking now and the worst that can happen is you’ll have a lot of cookies left!)

I think one of the worst things about gender roles in a non-Femdom society for males is their relationship to sex and Women. Women often complain that they are viewed as sex objects, that males sometimes behave with them in a way that is demeaning and whatnot. In Femdom, this is easily corrected by another role reversal – males are to be visually pleasing for Women and accept all sorts of behaviors like whistling at them, even touching them unwarranted, as “normal”.  For males living in a Femdom lifestyle this should be the norm and not something to stress about. They probably are dying for it to happen!  And you know what they are dying for also?  To complain about it!  Except it’s so un-talked about now that there’s nothing to complain about for them, and they are dying to play the game from the other side.  So there should be an ethical code by which males can be “victimized” in this way and can complain, to a certain degree, but Women will not be held accountable. (This all sounds a little bit like a joke, except it’s not. I think you can forgo males complaining too much but in general yes, both Women and men really want to play these rolls – so as long as nobody is really hurt either by rape or by shaming or lawsuits on either side it sounds like fair to me to play these roles a little bit).  

Men want to be the trophies Women win. They want, no, they need, to be conquered. To be loved, but from a position of leadership.  They need to know they can flirt with Women and Women will take notice. They need to know Women want them. They need to know Women desire them sexually.  And they need to know they can satisfy Women from a second-sex position. A “husbandly duty”, in fact, is pleasing the Woman in bed – whatever that means for Her. Little boys should understand that as soon as they know about sex (or, at least, they should understand that Femdom is an option and that that is how it is in a Femdom lifestyle… I wonder if any of those boys would ever grow up to want any other type of lifestyle!).

Women should objectify men not only in the sexual, but in the social, in the household… men should take up Women’s names after marriage… those are real Femdom gender roles.    

And yes, males should strive to please openly.  Women are heads of household in Femdom, so males should cook, do household things and… be loved for it!

At the end Femdom is about creating intimacy with new gender roles. I think we talk very little about the gender roles as such and too much about incidents, the way we interact in Femdom etc. but we should acknowledge them for what they are; gender roles. The gender role of the Female is that of authoritarian leader and that of the male is of secondary sex. Women are active, males are passive (to each other). Women conquer males, males are conquered. Males are relegated to second-sex status. This should all be acknowledged so we can happily live our Femdom lifestyle.  

I think for both Women and males the primary reason to want Femdom is because we want new gender roles. We are tired of both the old gender roles and the equality gender roles that Feminism brought.  Feminism was an improvement – but Femdom Women don’t want to just be equals but Superior. Femdom men don’t want to be equal but inferior – and treated well. Femdom is about the liberty to live that.  

Feminism brought a lot of good things to the world but had lots of side effects. 

And yes, Femdom is also about restoring intimacy, stability in relationships and undoing a lot of the bad side effects that Feminism had. Feminism was good, but Femdom is better.  

Diana