In a WLM there are a few benefits to having a pet name for your submissive husband. First, referring to your husband with a pet name on a regular basis is a constant reminder of his position beneath you in the hierarchy of your relationship. When you have a pet in the house, the pet is at the bottom of the hierarchy. You are the owner of the pet and the pet is trained to be obedient and follow commands. Assigning a pet name to your husband, has this same connotation. Of course you need to make sure the name you choose appropriately conveys his inferior position. Some examples:

• Pet, Puppy, Dog, Kitty, Kitty-cat
• Slave, Slave-Boy, Puppet
• Girl, Princess, Sissy, Baby-doll
• Cutie, Cute Boy, Angel, Precious 

Another benefit of a pet name is that using it helps put your husband into submissive mode. When I say, “slave bring me a cup of coffee,” it creates and instant response from Thomas and also creates an emotional reaction in him that surfaces his submissive feelings. It is a different feeling than if I were to just ask him to get me a cup of coffee.  Some names have a stronger impact than others. When I refer to Thomas as ‘slave,’ it most definitely conveys a message that his is beneath me and must obey. ‘Slave boy’ has an even stronger impact because the term ‘boy’ implies that he is my child and not a mature adult. Likewise, in the examples above, ‘Sissy’ is a much stronger word than girl. Calling a guy a girl suggests that he has feminine qualities, which may be embarrassing for a guy but as us women know, feminine qualities are a good thing and are good for guys to have. Guys with feminine traits are more accepted in today’s world. On the other hand ‘Sissy’ implies weakness an inferiority and it is very humiliating and demeaning for a guy to be called a sissy. A wife who calls her husband a sissy will generate feelings of strong submissiveness and humiliation in her husband. I personally do not think names with strong negative connotations should be used on a regular basis.  However, they can be very effective when role playing for fun or for punishment. For example, as part of Thomas’s corner time punishment, I could make him wear panties with the word Sissy embroidered on them and I could make him write a letter of an apology to me and sign it at sissy Thomas. Having him wear the sissy panties under his clothes at work would be another form of punishment. I’ve seen sissy panties for sale on Etsy that are super silky and frilly and definitely not something a woman would wear. They would make for a good punishment.

There are several terms that can be added to the pet names to make them even more inferior names. Examples include, ‘little,’, ‘baby,’ and ‘boy.’ You could refer to your husband as little boy, little Johnny, baby girl, little pup, or slave baby. Pet names can also be attached to a fetish. If your guy has a foot fetish, you could call him foot boy or toe licker. I think it’s fun to use initials. You could call him WFF for “weak for my feet.”  If your guy is into small penis humiliation, you could use names like peewee or baby boy or just use the word little in front of his name. Do not underestimate the power of these words. It is amazing the effect they can have on a submissive guy when used over and over again. I notice with my husband, simply saying good boy or good girl, put him in a submissive and obedient mood. It’s like a switch flips in his mind when I reward him with a ‘good boy’ and he wants to listen and obey me even more. Sounds crazy but believe me, the effect is real.  Give it a try.

I recommend having multiple names that can be used in different situations. ‘Slave’ and ‘Slave Boy’ are the pet names I use on a regular basis. In fact, when he give me cards, writes me letters, and sends me texts he is required to sign them as either slave or slave boy. If there is a chance that the message can be seen (e.g. texting), he will use the initials SB. In addition to those names, I will often refer to him as ‘girl’ when he is acting silly or in a girlish way. I may refer to him as girl or princess when we are in the bedroom because I usually have him in panties. Most definitely when we are shopping for panties, I play the girl card. Other names I call him are ‘pet’ and ‘toy’ or ‘boy toy’. I use pet when we are role-playing. ‘Toy’ and ‘Boy-toy’ are names I use when I want to be pleasured by him but don’t want any of his drama and am not in the mood to play with him. He is a toy that exists to pleasure me. I may also come up with a name on the fly that I use just once or twice. Once when he was worshiping my ass with my tongue, I teased that he was a good ass kisser and brown noser. The next day when I saw him, I said, “there’s my little brown noser,” I know it sent his mind in a tizzy thinking about what he did the night before.

Creating an Alternate Personality
A powerful technique for tapping into his submission and exerting your power over him is to create an alternate personality that is associated with the a pet name. Often times this happens without you realizing it because pet names tend to be used regularly under the same situations so the husband becomes conditioned to react a certain way when the pet name is used. It is even more powerful (and fun) to formally create the alternate personality. You do this through role playing and establishing specific behavior expectations when the name is used. For a traditional couple, this role-play is just fantasy fun.  The great thing for the WLM couple is that as you role-play it over and over again, it transitions into that blended fantasy-reality world and it can lead to some fun, intense, mind blowing moments for the couple. In the WLM, the pet name can become a trigger that instantly surfaces the alternate personality.

This is a very powerful technique for the wife to use to break down barriers and push limits with her husband. The reason it is so powerful is that it is easy for a guy to let go of his inhibitions and forget about societal preconceptions when he is given permission to take on an alternate personality. It is similar to someone who puts on a mask or costume at a Halloween party or someone who takes on a role in a play. A person hiding behind a mask often feels more at liberty to do silly things and take on the personality of the mask. An actor in a play who embraces the role, has no issue being over dramatic and playing out the character role because he/she is expected to act that way. The same is true when you train your husband to take on a new personality. Once he drops into that tole, you will be amazed how what you can get him to do.

The fist time you give it a try it may seem silly but the more you play with it, the less silly it becomes and it turns into exciting and arousing fun. It is a lot of fun creating the alternate personality and it is also fun to resurface the personality whenever you want. Below are some specific examples:

Toy
As your toy, train him to be still and not move and not speak unless given permission. He pleases you only the way you order him to. As a toy, his pleasure does not matter. He is not permitted to cum as a toy and should not expect it. He exists solely to pleasure you. It is easy to train this personality. Simply have him lie on the bed, sit on top of him and say, “Tonight you are my toy. I am going to use you for my pleasure. You are not to move or speak and you will not orgasm.” If you are in a more playful mood, you can drag it out a bit and tease his cock while you go over the rules. Then once all the rules are established go to work and use him for your pleasure. Be very direct in what you want him to do. If he does something without your permission, reprimand him immediately. For example if you are on top of him riding his cock and he starts to thrust, immediately command, “no thrusting toy!” Sometimes I like to add a physical reinforcement when I reprimand him such as pinching his nipples or punching him (my punches do not hurt him. It’s more for effect). During the whole episode, refer to him as ‘toy’ as much as possible. When you are done you could say things like, ‘thank you toy,’ or ‘I am done with you toy, calm yourself down.’

Remember, that the ultimate goal you are trying to accomplish is to create a personality and not just a one time fantasy play. You can do this simply by repeating the above episode over and over again and eventually he is conditioned to be your toy. You could also be more direct and let him know that going forward whenever you refer to him as toy, you expect that he behaves exactly as you trained him. The benefit to the personality is that you don’t have to explain things every time. If you are in the mood to be pleasured and not wanting to deal with his neediness, you just say, ‘toy, meet me in the bedroom,’ and he will know what to do. “wham-bam, thank you toy!”

Feminization
Creating an alternate female personality for your husband can be exciting. This is one that I like because there are so many facets to feminization that you can explore with your husband and you can explore just a little bit or go as deep as you want. The femme personality is also a great way to offset the macho male personality. If he is starting to act up and go back to bad habits, simply bring out the little girl in him and suddenly he is under your thumb and ready to obey. I do find that my husband is more focused on me and in good behavior when he is in panties. Building a female persona can be a great mind game for your husband and it is something that you can continually evolve over time.

It’s best to build the personality when he is fully aroused and while you tease his cock. This reduces his resistance, makes it exciting for him, and links his pleasure to the feminization. Give him a female name. This is the mask that he can hide behind. Suppose you call him Tammy. You can tell him that you want Tammy to come out and play and that when Tammy is out, he needs to shed all his masculine habits and become more soft. This simple reframing from his male name to a female name allows him to step into the female role without guilt. When he is Tammy he is free to be feminine and when you are done with Tammy, he can go back to his boring old self and forget about Tammy.

I’ve used this a few times just to have a fun weekend. I’ll say something like, I want this to be girls weekend. It’s time to put Thomas away for awhile and bring out Tammy to play or I might say, I want to bring out the little girl in you this weekend.. Thomas gets excited by this and immediately drops into a docile and submissive frame of mind. He knows that the weekend will be filled with him wearing frilly and lacy lingerie. I will also bring out the female personality if his bad male habits begin to show. On occasion he will talk to me with a bit of attitude, which is never acceptable to me. I may tell him that his bad male side is starting to show and so I don’t want to talk to Thomas and that I want Tammy instead. By the time I am done with Tammy, his attitude is completely changed and he emerges from being an obedient girl to a completely obedient boy.

Those are just a few examples. There are many other personalities you can develop such as a kitten, puppy, baby, or a slut. Make sure you keep it all in good fun. The techniques above are intended to spice up the relationship and are not a necessity of a WLM. I would love to hear what pet names you all use and if you have role played any personalities.

-Mz Kaylee