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I get a lot of email from my blog readers. Mostly older men (my readership is almost 90% men, and 65% of the men are over 45 years old). I love these emails. I’ve received thousands since I’ve started my blog. I try to answer each one. Sometimes they get a bit lost in the inbox, and if so I apologize and please remind me!

Many times my boys like to share with me their hopes and their experiences. There’s not a lot of people they can talk to about these sorts of things, and submissive men I think feel much more comfortable sharing these things with a sympathetic non-judgmental and accepting top woman. I suspect they also get a little thrill from it that helps as well.

And I am not at all bothered by it being older men. The older the better! I have some 18-24 youngins mailing me, and they are always so confused, and I prefer not playing with them for fear that they have not fully developed yet. Older kinky men, though, are almost uniformly super intelligent and evolved, and typically have a load of wisdom which I love tying into. They also know how to play with me without getting all lovey-dovey. Some of them also have their demons, but they’ve been wrestling with them for so long that they are comfortable with them, and then I can play a bit of a public service by discussing these things.

Truth be told, I also have my own personal “Daddy” kink, where it turns me on to imagine me dominating an imaginary Dad (and/or getting myself spanked and fucked by one! I know – so rude!). So the older guys are also more of a turn-on for me personally, whichever way they lean. I’m also very good at teasing my older boys on email, which is why I get and keep so many of them.

So if you have not emailed me yet, please do so! I will listen to you seriously, non judgmentally, and will play with you also, likely taking the form of a merciless verbal teasing and telling you what I would do with you if you were mine!

A subset these emails purport to recount “true to life” experiences. Some of these are almost certainly fantasies made to sound real, presented as if they are real. I try not to be judgy about it. I cannot be sure. And I enjoy the fantasies anyways. I am well aware that a lot of the things I write about in my blog sound like made-up fantasies as well, so who am I to judge? So I take all experiences sent to me and respond as if they were real.

But having read so many accounts, I think I by now have a nose for the made up ones. Usually if a boy is describing a pro domme experience, and it sounds true, I’m convinced it is. Others describe their play sessions with partners over the years, and those strike me as quite honest as well. Others describe a private domestic experience with their wives, including the ups and downs, and I have no reason to doubt those. The ones that have a higher chance of leaving me in a little bit of doubt are those that are represented as “real discipline”, typically in a family setting (where most “real discipline” happens, I guess). But again, I treat all of these as if they represent true events, and respond accordingly, because I can’t really know.

However, some of these I am convinced are accurate. Usually based on a history of exchanging emails with the boy, and how the story goes down. In this blog I’ll pick out a few amongst the ones I received that I believe are accurate and share these stories with you.

Naked ted’s Story

One gentleman I was corresponding with lived a lifestyle somewhat similar to kdpierre’s fascinating life (as described in his blog Collected Submissions he lives with a dominant wife Rosa and her grown kids who, especially his daughter-in-law Ana, are “in the know” – I am convinced of the accuracy of kdpierre’s stuff!)

This other man, let’s call him ted here, started corresponding with me casually, commenting on my blog articles and saying how much he liked them. I started pressing him on his experiences, and he reluctantly let them out a bit at a time, afraid I might get offended. Eventually he spilled the whole beans for me and then I was on the inside. I even received photos of his that corroborated his story.

ted was always submissive with his wife, since he started dating her. They met in the old fashioned kink scene in fact, back in the days when Dinosaurs roamed the land and there was no Internet. They kept it on the DL, though. They had kids and raised them, and during that time their kinky life suffered. Eventually their kids moved out, and then ted retired, and then they were really able to up their game.

Physically, ted is average sized and his wife Emma is a plus sized woman. ted was only really happy when he was submitting to his wife, and Emma enjoyed that dynamic as well. So gradually they just migrated to keeping ted in the nude 24×7 while in the home. Every now and then Emma would just take ted over her knee and spank him for whatever reason. ted also gravitated to doing most of the housework as well. It was not “real discipline” per se, but they were living the real consensual D/s lifestyle that they both wanted.

Unfortunately, their 30-year-old daughter Lisa needed to move back in with them after a break-up. At first ted and Emma went back to being more vanilla in the home with Lisa there. But it made them unhappy, especially ted who was getting a bit depressed about it. On the other hand, it was only going to be for a short time until Lisa could get a job. But then Lisa decided to go to nursing school, and it only made sense for her to continue staying for several more years.

So ted and Emma talked, and they jointly decided that they would have a talk with their daughter and let her in on the situation. They intended to go back to living the lifestyle they wanted, and that ted needed for his emotional well-being. If Lisa was not ok with it, they would help her to the extent they could to move out and maintain a place of her own (though it would mean sacrifices all around).

So one evening they sat down and explained their chosen lifestyle to their grown daughter. They explained that they were in a D/s relationship, and that Emma kept Lisa’s father in the nude around the house, doing the housework, and would spank him on occasion. They would also from time to time do some noisy things in their bedroom.

A bit to their surprise, Lisa was very accepting of the idea. So on the spot Emma told ted to take his clothes off and to stand in front of them. A kind of a test for them both, if you will. “Oh, Daddy,” ted reported his daughter as saying, as he was standing their in the nude, hands at his sides at Emma’s command, flaccid penis dangling, “you’re very silly but I love you anyways.” ted also received his first spanking across Emma’s broad knee in front of his daughter that same evening. More a demonstration of what Lisa might see to ensure she would be comfortable with it. They told her they would keep the more sexual things to the bedroom.

Lisa never asked for nor was granted spanking authority over her father (I would have!!!). However she did tease him about his spankings, and always made it a point to show up and watch any spankings not behind closed doors. After his spankings she would sometimes touch his butt to “feel the heat”, and give ted a daughterly little pat to his bare backside. Occasionally Lisa would call for a spanking: “Mom! Daddy didn’t do the laundry today again. Bring your paddle and don’t spare the whacks ’cause I am so out of clean underwear!” “Poor” ted, living life naked with two strict females in the house! Ha ha!

Is it just me, with my Daughter/Daddy domination fantasies, or is that not sexy as hell? They’re all adults, it’s all consensual. Yes Daughter is “subjected” to this, but she’s getting free room and board and help with college tuition. She can make the choice to move out and still be supported to the extent possible. And she assured them she was ok with it. Cool! Would love to be that daughter!

One of the most interesting parts for all you shame sluts out there, though, is when Lisa asked permission to let her best friend at nursing school, Debbie, in on the arrangement and bring her around so they could do schoolwork together in the evenings. After discussing it with Lisa, and ascertaining that the friend could be discrete, they agreed to it.

So one day after school Lisa comes home with her best friend Debbie. Debbie was younger than Lisa, having entered nursing school after high school and doing a few years at a job. So I imagine she was in her early twenties. She was apparently quite cute to boot.

Before Debbie was introduced to ted, Emma sat her and Lisa down in the living room, and warned Debbie again what she was about to see, told her about their lifestyle, and confirmed that she would both be ok with it and be discrete. Debbie was also fascinated. So ted was called into the living room to be introduced to Debbie.

He walked in nude and looking a little sheepish. Debbie gave ted the once over with her eyes. To ted’s infinite mortification, he developed a twitchy erection being displayed like that in front of her, something that did not happen at home at all, and not ever in front of his daughter either.

“Daddy, look at you, that’s disgusting!” teased Lisa.

“Go get your paddle!” said Emma to ted.

ted had to go and fetch the small hardwood spanking paddle his wife favours and bring it back to her in front of the girls. He went across Emma’s knee where he was scolded for his erection and given a good spanking, right in front of Debbie! He was stood back up, and the erection had not fully subsided, but was more at “half mast”, and so he was back across Emma’s knee and spanked again, and harder this time. When he was stood up after that, his erection was gone and he was told to go stand in the corner and hide his face (and penis) in shame for the duration of Debbie’s stay, which was several long hours for poor old ted!

Can you imagine how absolutely mortifying that must have been for ted? Punished by his wife for his obvious sexual arousal in front of his giggling daughter and her twenty-something best friend, the object of this embarrassing arousal. Punished until all signs of that arousal were visibly erased to the satisfaction of all three ladies. And then sentenced to the corner, glowing red blistered bare bottom on display, for the duration of the young lady’s visit lest his arousal re-ignite in her presence.

So there it is. There were other incidents as well, but none as good as that one in my books. ted even sent me photos of him next to his wife, full on frontal, face and everything. ted nude, his wife dressed. The person taking the photo was their daughter, I was told.

You can see why I am skeptical about stories such as this, but this one felt like it was real, based on the long interaction with ted and the photos. As well, I know only too well that crazy stuff happens in this wild world of ours!

brett’s Spankings

brett is another older pen pal of mine I love corresponding with (where have you been brett!!!???). He is happily married to a wife who spanks. They first got into brett’s spankings based on a family discussion where brett’s Mom casually referred to the childhood spankings brett received. brett was mortified by the mention but his wife kept digging for details. Eventually brett and his wife discussed brett’s spankings privately, and they discovered that spanking was a turn-on for them both (she from the dominant side, and he from the submissive), and so she started spanking him.

brett and his wife evolved a certain routine, whereby when he displeases his wife (e.g., undone chores) she has him write a “punishment essay”. She then assigns him a grade. Depending on the grade there is a certain number of minutes of timeout assigned. Invariably he is first bathed and thoroughly shaved by his wife around his private parts. Then he is brought into the living room for his timeout, he is required to stand at attention in the nude in the center of the living room surrounded by large picture windows. His wife keeps his penis teased to full erection during his timeout. After timeout comes his severe spanking across his wife’s knee using the dreaded maplewood hairbrush.

The childhood spanking that most seems to have effected brett occurred when he was a young teenager. His Dad gave him some light chores to accomplish during the day when they were staying at an uncle’s farm. It was summer time and school was out. But brett shirked on his chores because the little neighbour girl dropped by to swim with brett in his uncle’s pool. They got to flirting, and brett pretending to be a macho guy got her into the woodshed where they smoked cigarettes and drank one of his Dad’s beers.

Well, you can imagine what happens next. Dad gets home and notices the lack of the chores having been done and smoke coming from the woodshed (very dangerous!). He discovers brett there with the spent and dangerous cigarette butts and the empty beer can. He sends the young lady packing and then calmly picks out a suitable wooden shingle from the woodpile and proceeds to sand it down and shape a crude handle using the woodworking equipment in the shed while poor little brett watches in terror (he is no stranger to spankings, by the way). Usually Daddy uses a small hardwood spanking paddle, but he left it at home and needed to improvise!

Next thing you know brett is up and lying down across the narrow workbench, head and chest and feet dangling. His swimsuit is pulled down to his ankles and he is given a nasty, long, painful spanking to his lower bared butt cheeks from his Dad’s wooden shingle. brett is reduced to tears, bawling and crying like a six year old and promising to be good. Sometime during his spanking his little swim trunks flew off his kicking legs. His Daddy just held him down by the small of his back and repeatedly spanked the bejesus out of brett’s lower butt cheeks.

After his woodscrap paddling he was stood up and told to put his swim trunks back on. He did so and was marched back to the house. I know from experience that a hard padlding to the lower cheeks invariably leaves a huge residual redness down the backs of the legs, so I imagine his Aunt and uncle, Mother, and siblings all had a good look at a wet-faced boy with a well-smacked rear-end!

The capper is that as he is marched back to the house, he could swear that he caught a glimpse of a pink swimsuit diving for cover…

jj Gets Spanked by his Grandmother

In the final scene, I’ll recount a more recent experience I’ve received. We’ll call him jj here. jj recently received a for-real spanking from his Grams!

I’ve been corresponding with jj for quite some time. He’s a total switch. But whenever I write a subby blog article, jj is always right there with the dommy comments. I think he likes to picture himself in the Dommy role, which is why it’s always a little extra embarrassing for him when he finds himself in the subby role, something I can easily get him into with a short email. Imagine how much more so I could in person? Ha ha!

jj is one of my younger male readers, early 30’s (only 25% of my males readers are less than 35, whereas it’s 50% for my women). He ran onto some hard financial times recently, and had to ask if he could move back in with his early 80’s Grams while he got back on his feet. jj comes from a churchgoing and spanking household. He was spanked as a child, and his parent was spanked as a child, and Grams had spanked both his parent and jj himself when they were children.

A few years ago, jj was visiting and the topic of a young man in the congregation came up who had to move back in with his family after hitting some hard times himself. He complained to jj about how ridiculous his parents were being, imposing rules on him as if he was still a kid, and how he felt he did not need to follow them as an adult himself. jj and Grams discussed this sentiment, and they both agreed that if an older child needs to move back in with his parents, then he should be subject to whatever rules they lay out. They also discussed how certain people in your life always have authority over you. They even discussed, as a kind of joke, that it would extend to a spanking even. We know jj is a total spanko, perhaps he was the one who steered the discussion there. He did not say.

How easy it was for jj to hold those views and to have that conversation at a time when he was riding high with a great job and a place of his own. Typical of jj to lord it over a young man who finds himself in such a position. I’ve certainly felt that myself when I was on the submissive end of my blog posts. Mr. High and Mighty. Ha! How the mighty doth fall…

So now jj finds himself in this tense situation needing his Gram’s help to get back on his feet. So he moves in with her and everything is going fine for six months until a few weeks back. jj had been super stressed and on edge and ended up getting in a huge argument with his Grams and then later with his sister. He swore during his argument with Grams and later ended up calling his sister something he’s never ever called a female before (“cunt”) and was definitely not proud he did it either.

After everyone was gone for the day Grams talked to jj and expressed her displeasure with his behaviour. She said she felt he deserved to be punished and told him that he either had to move out or be spanked. jj says that not having enough money yet, and feeling extreme guilt over the episode, he had “no option” but to agree. I would go further and say that a spanko like jj would always accept a spanking from any female at any time!

So Grams took jj into her bedroom, collecting her large wooden spoon along the way. Grams said that his temper had been really bad lately and he needed to get it figured out. She said that he had said very hurtful things to her and to his sister. Right after that she pulled his shorts and underwear down in one swoop. jj was wearing a T-shirt and gym shorts. He says he tried to convince her not to but she said it was her way or I was out. jj was extremely embarrassed during this but also felt really guilty for the things I said to her and his sister earlier and realized he deserved whatever.

Grams was sitting at the foot of her bed, wearing a pantsuit. jj was directly in front of her during his baring, and then went over one of her knees diagonally so his chest rested on the bed. jj’s penis was definitely on show during his baring, but grams did not bat an eyelash. Nor even when his bare genitals touched down on her thigh. She cared only about his bared butt just then.

Grams proceeded to spank jj with her hand for about five minutes, scolding him throughout. Then she picked up the large wooden spoon and really gave it to him. jj said that despite her age, she still knew how to deliver a memorable wooden spoon spanking!

Is this the view Grams got as jj squirmed across her knee?

After his spanking, Grams made him lay face down on the bed, bare butt exposed, so he could pull himself together and think about what he had done. Afterwards, jj came out of her room with his pants pulled back up and apologized to his Grams, and later to his sister as well (though the spanking was not mentioned).

Excuse me, but I find such a thing absolutely hilarious! A 31-year-old man-boy across his Grams knee for a good old-fashioned bare bottom wooden spoon spanking? Love it! I so hope this is real!

Conclusion

So there you have it. A few of the very many stories I have accumulated over the years receiving emails. Let us know what you think in the comments. Do you find these unbelievable, or do you think such things can actually happen? And have you any memorable little true stories of your own you can share in the comments? Would love to read them!

Source: Strict Julie Spanks

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