At Christmas one of my nephews in his early twenties brought home a girl. They are both socially awkward creatures. They met online where they shared nerdish pursuits and this was only their second in person meeting. She was already talking about marrying him, though. They seemed very in love, and could not keep their hands off one another.

She was slim and pretty in a nerdish way. Plain clothes, no makeup, glasses, awkward physically, petite, not toned. He was likewise, but much bigger all around. I was frankly surprised that this awkward and hyper-nerdy boy had found such a catch.

She was clearly enjoying her budding sexuality, and comfortable with it. She talked about sex toys without embarrassment. And she talked about them having sex together. She seemed to be really enjoying this part of the relationship. He blushed and seemed embarrassed by this talk, but at the same time eager like a puppy dog.

My husband and I watched their interaction, and we cringed a bit. Neither of them seemed sure of their place with respect to one another. For example, they had a small disagreement abut something trivial, and they fought a bit. But not a play fight. It was a small contest of wills. It did not bode well for the relationship. I hope they work this out.

The boy was unsure of himself. He was new to this “girl” thing, despite being in his early twenties. This was his first girlfriend, and more than likely his first sexual experience, and most of their time together had been online from different countries (US and Canada).

He didn’t know how to act. Was he expected to be “in control”? To act “macho” towards her? To always “win” the arguments? But nor would she back down from him.

It was very clear to me and my husband…

We truly beleive this is the natural order of things.

Going back to the cave, there is this image that the males make the rules because they can impose their physical will on the females. I could be wrong, but I actually doubt this was ever the case. Did not the females always have male protectors? Fathers, brothers, other males seeking her favour? If a male not chosen by the female started throwing his weight around, I can bet he was taken to task with a good beating by her protectors. I suppose the powerful alpha male was the exception. He could have any pussy he wanted. But outside of that?

It is the natural right of the female to choose her sexual partner. In this case, my nephew was clearly chosen by this girl. Did he not see that? She could just as easily withdraw her partnership at any time, and replace it with dozens of others at a whim. Boys fool themselves if they think otherwise. Witness online dating sights where the girls are flooded with attention and there is none for the boys. Or a YouTube social experiment where an attractive boy asks 100 girls for sex and is turned down 100 times, whereas an attractive girl asks for sex 100 times and is taken up on it 99 times.

david should really talk to this boy. He needs straightening out. A truly secure male will appreciate the gift he is being granted, and will act accordingly. He will defer to his woman in public and in private. Within the relationship, she is in charge. He can use his size and his muscles (both actually and metaphorically) to ward off external threats to the pair. But within the relationship, she is Queen.

There is nothing more heart warming than to see a whim of a woman acted upon instantly by the male in the relationship.

“david, why don’t you pour a drink for our guests?”

“Yes sweetie! Right away!”

This is the same man that if I was threatened in the street would beat the living crap out of the aggressor.

Is that not as it should be?

This boy needs to defer to his girl, in public and in the bedroom. For example, if she wants her pussy licked, will he not lick it? He had better, or he may find himself replaced.

She has the pussy. She makes the rules.

Source: Strict Julie Spanks

She has the pussy. She makes the rules.