Me Locked Up

This may not always be the case, but speaking for myself, I can say that when I became “locked up” to refrain from masturbation, by attention turned towards my wife to as strong as the “courting days” in the very beginning of our relationship.

If you have ever read the book “Think & Grow Rich” by Napolean Hill, one of the best selling books of all time, there is a chapter where he talks about sex transmutation.

Sex transmutation is when your sexual energy is channeled for greater good in your business affairs, your relationships, simply by abstaining from orgasms.

This would be the single biggest practice you could do starting today to improve your life.  It also will help you start to differentiate between fantasy and reality.

For you see, many people that start getting interested in a female dominated relationship, came by it through pornographic images, and video.  This is ok.  Just because you got a bad start, doesn’t mean you can’t turn this into a very positive experience.

Sometimes you may get to where you ultimately need to be, but rarely without some detours and obstacles in the way.

More fantasy than reality. This likely moves your relationship in the wrong direction.

When you are looking at images of dominatrix’s and woman doing nasty things like pissing in a males mouth, or other degrading acts, this is mostly fantasy.  Albeit, there are some people out there probably living this life.  I don’t condone this kind of femdom relationship, but at the same time I will not pass judgement.  Your lifestyle ultimately is your choice, and whatever works for the 2 parties in the relationship to maximize happiness and productivity in life specific to that relationship is ok with me.

However, a lot of men reading about femdom relationships are not actually in them.  They are fantasizing about them based on images, or videos that are made for the porn industry.  The porn is warping their minds into destructive thought patterns, and can potentially damage the male psyche.  This article is written with those people in mind.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship with a Dominate woman.  It can be the most rewarding and fulfilling experience for a man, especially if the man is normally dominant in everyday life affairs.  It is the like the Ying to his Yang.  It gives him peace in letting go of all the male burdens on him in his regular everyday life.

Being treated like an object like this though, I have to admit, works for me.

We must remember thought to separate fantasy from reality though.  Although you see an image of a man being treated like an object, it is likely no better than the men that prey on woman and treat them as sexual objects.  There is a destruction of soul and mind unless both parties understand that to be successful in this type of relationship, it is best to have a lot of love, patience, and understanding as the key principles that drive the relationship.

Some of the images we post on this site, show some pretty drastic things happening to the male, and I wanted to qualify them as fantasy and not reality.

Yes, that is me. Beaten and buttplugged for the day for not meeting my weight goals.

The main things my wife and I participate in, is the daily discipline, increasing my workload around the house, and all in all, placing her sexual satisfaction ahead of mine.  By locking up my cock, I have become a better husband that adores, respects and loves my wife.   When that happened, the love I got back was the strongest I have ever felt in my life.  We continue to explore new avenues of female dominance, but we move forward with caution and understanding knowing that any decisions we make have to mutually benefit us and bring us closer.

For us, having her fuck other men and for me to suck the cum out of her pussy just isn’t one of those things that will bring us closer.

She doesn’t want it, nor do I.  We both find this disgusting and completely off the beaten path of what real love is.

But hey, what do we know?  If this floats both of your boats, by all means have at er.

This blog is about a REAL LIFE FEMDOM RELATIONSHIP that has had some ups and downs just like any other relationship.  We will evolve and get better for each other, but cuckolding is simply not in our cards.

So be careful if you are starting down this road not to get caught up in all the fantasy and images, videos portraying what a femdom relationship is.

A femdom relationship is what you make it, and I would highly advise you move towards activities and things that bring you closer.

Not me, but I like the authority she commands with the leash.

For me, it is me assuming more housework, becoming a better oral lover, to stop masturbation altogether, and to completely submit and obey my wife in almost all matters.  We still have areas that I remain the leader in, because it fits our families goals better.  It also means for me to place my wife’s needs above mine, and to truly become a servant to her that happily and obediently complies to her wishes.

For her, it means simply entertaining some of my darker kinkier fantasies, and simply making sex a higher priority in her life than it has been in the past.

Men connect through sex, and women connect through acts of service.  This is how we were designed, and when you get this right, life can be blissful beyond your wildest dreams.