This is very important to make this relationship truly a female led relationship.  Many men want you to spank them but only because it is a fun bedroom game.

A true female led relationship takes this to a much more real level.

When you man displeases you for any reason, you must discipline him.  Not the friendly lets have fun spanking discipline but the type that can really physically alter his mind state and even better, make him truly sorry for what he did to get here in the first place.

The spanking does not stop when he is screaming for you to stop.  It stops when you think you have done enough to get your message across.  A true discipline spanking should have the man verging on or even have tears.  It should be way past the point of when he is begging you to stop and it should leave an ass so red that it will hurt to sit for several days.

This is taking your female led relationship from a pretend state to a real state.  If your man does not submit to this, and understand and agree to your discipline, pack it in and tell him that you are not interested in playtime for him without it being real.  You need to setup authority right here and now and let him know you will only participate in a femdom relationship if he truly submits to you.

Here is what his ass should look like after a true disciplinarian spanking.