Level 1

This is a basic change in the household.  Your man has not relinquished control and in fact still makes the big decisions in the household.  He is starting to learn and place a higher value on the things you do and becomes a better contributor to your household.  Ultimately, you really have no control over him whatsoever, but he is more respectful to your needs.

If his needs or wants super cedes yours, he will of course does what he wants to do.  This is really where the overwhelming majority of marriages are, and probably why the divorce rate is where it is.   This is not a femdom marriage.  This is a “vanilla” marriage.

The woman is generally not satisfied outside of the bedroom, and therefore the man is not that satisfied in it.

Sex in Level 1 is very average and it is likely that neither partner is getting what they want out of sex, and this is why many couples start to explore the femdom lifestyle or end up in divorce.  It is usually the man needing more and better sex that reaches out first.  The woman is usually resistant because she thinks he is just trying to have his cake and eat it too.

Level 1 Activities

• traditional sex
• light housework for male
• average North American marriage

Level 2

This is where most people begin a journey that can transform their lives into a more mutual relationship where equality truly does come into play.  Many people think that this is where marriages should be, but my personal opinion is that is some way or form, that it is better that one person or the other has the final say in most matters.  It may mean separating some of these things so that the man has the final say in this or that, but the woman has the final saying on all other matters.

By definition of femdom – female dominance, the man that wishes for a level 2 relationship should begin to relinquish all control to the female with the understanding that she will be a better leader than the male.   Studies have proven this, but for the sake of this article, we will not go into much detail about it.

Men in level 2 are matching at minimum the household chores to his wife.  He is learning to do what she does, and removing a lot off her plate which in turn is making her happier.  This is a transitional phase, because it is more about the man learning how to please his woman outside of the bedroom which in turn makes her more willing to please him inside of it.  Men are kinky by nature and have very visual fantasies that they would do almost anything to live out, but most relationships will never go there because of all the hidden resentments, feelings, and frustration with each other.  Level 2, starts to break down these feelings from both people.  The man may start out by doing more chores with the anticipation of more and better sex, but soon will discover that seeing his wife happier is really fulfilling and a buzz on its own.  This makes him want to do more for her, and it starts a cycle of maybe for the first time since you first met, of reciprocal loving feelings for each other.  This is where failing marriages start to turn for the better.

Male Chastity is usually introduced at this level.  Along with other sex toys that broaden the womans perception of sex and helps her become more liberated and confident with her body and her mind.  Sex is mostly in the mind for women, and the better they feel about themselves, the better they can engage in more meaning intimate sex, rather than just trying to get her husband off.

Sex is getting better, and the woman is learning to be more sexual and starting to like the power of feeling this way.  The man is becoming more obedient and compliant to his partner, which feeds the power to the female.  There is genuine transfer of power happening at this level that is pleasing to both people.

Things that may happen in Level 2

• equal split of house chores
• male chastity is introduced
• disciplining male for behaviour wife is not please with
• spankings for punishment
• generally a lot more respect for the woman in the household
• structure being developed by woman
• light transfer of power between man and woman

Level 3

After a while in level 2, the marriage has evolved into what it was that made you get married in the first place.  However, you have found out that the reason for this, is because the woman is gaining control.  The man is liking this new sexy powerful wife, and is starting to realize that by being submissive to his wife, their life together is transforming into something he had always dreamed about.

The woman generally is reaching a point of no return.  There is no way she can go back.  It would be definite divorce if that was the case.  She loves the way she is being treated, and the kinky needs of her husband that were once “gross” and “deviant” she is now starting to enjoy as much or even more than the husband.

She has learned that through this kink, she can control her husband and take him to anyplace she desires by pushing on buttons.  She is pampered daily now with massages, foot rubs, and other pampering activities.  She controls the remote to the TV, and decides on what they are doing on days off, days on, or whenever.  She is ultimately pulling most strings and does not intend on ever handing them back.  She is wondering why she was so reluctant to this lifestyle in the first place.  It was because she thought it was going to be all about the mans kinky needs and she did not see that this lifestyle is truly leaning towards the womans ultimate happiness.

The man has learned that his womans ultimate happiness is his ultimate happiness.  We can all make money and dive into work, and we can get rich.  We can do all sorts of things, but nothing will satisfy any of us more than a deep meaningful relationship with our partner.  In level 3, I believe humans are just starting to learn on what mother nature built us for.

The woman now completely controls his orgasms, and keeps them limited to very infrequently keeping her husband in a state of sexual arousal that makes him more attentive to her and more productive in his life.  Eliminating masturbation of the male has really started to work well for the couple, and life is excellent.

The man is doing a lot of the household chores now, and he is whistling while he works.  He is horny when he is doing the housework thinking of how much he loves his wife, and how good life is now.  This is a real sweet spot for most couples that explore this lifestyle.

Things that might happen in Level 3

• woman becomes leader of household
• weekly and even daily spankings to husband
• dominance rituals to enforce transfer of power
• pegging
• anal penetration (on him)
• Forced oral on her
• bondage and restraint (him)
• diet controlled by woman
• leisure activities dictated by woman
• overall sense of being and purpose for both

Level 4

Level 4 is complete and total control over the male.  The male has become 100% dedicated to his partner.  The man is doing all of the housework, sometimes wearing a maid uniform, or panties to express clearly and proudly how his wife has turned him into her bitch.  This is very sexually arousing for the male, however, it is the woman that is experiencing the best sex of her life.

At this level, the woman is free to have sex with whomever she pleases by making her man her cuckold.  Sissification may or may not occur at this level.  The man is to follow ALL instructions by his partner.

Things that may happen in Level 4

• sissification
• forced bi activities
• corporal physical spankings, and torture and/or humiliation games.
• servicing of woman’s sexual partners

Of course how far you go is up to the two people involved, and this can be a very liberating experience for both people in the relationship.