First things first.  Your partner is very embarrassed about these feelings he has, and we are here to tell you that this is not as uncommon as you might think.   At this point this might not offer you a lot of consolation, so lets look at what could be driving his behaviour.

Sometimes men find themselves in this situation because of a long time feeling of knowing something was missing in their lives, but they just could not put their finger on it.  They were unfulfilled in their sex lives even if you thought it was amazing.  This is not a lack of anything on your part, but rather a psychological component in their dna that is driving them toward this.

A leader among men

Many men that have fantasies of being dominated by their partner or women in general are straight, heterosexual men that are confident and competent in their daily lives.  This group of men are actually more of a dominant man than most of their peers, and our leaders among them.

This leadership and alpha maleness can lead to something missing from their life that gives them balance.  These men usually are very family orienteered, loyal, and love their spouses very much.  If this sounds like your man, you are in luck.  This man wants to please you and make your life better and his at the same time.  He may be having problems expressing it, and he may do things that seem counterproductive to his wants.

This is because he is very confused on how to express these feelings to you.  Some are so ashamed that they seek out dominatrixes to get to express and feel this side of them in which they need very much.

If this is the case, but it has come recently to light with you about these fantasies, there is some good news and some bad news depending on how you look at it.

The good news is that now that it is out in the open, it is time for you the two of you to sit down and have some very open conversations about this.  This CAN enhance your trust, intimacy, and love for each other beyond anything you could ever imagine.

The bad news is, that if you are of closed mind and not willing to work with your partner to find out what his needs are and if you can or can’t meet them, these fantasies will not go away and they will eventually lead him outside of the relationship if it hasn’t already.

If you love your partner, do everything in your power to learn more about EXACTLY what his needs are and try to make changes.  I guarantee you that if he has confessed his fantasies to you, he is about ready to make all your fantasies come true.  I am not talking about sex either.

If you want a husband that is domesticated, does chores equally in the house (or more) is attentive to all of your needs all of the time, then this relationship might be something you have been missing too.

Most couples that discover this way of life, do not go back.  It is too blissful for both parties if you can work past the kinks in the beginning.  Your man will treat you like the queen that you have always wanted to be treated like.  Flowers, dating, romance, and all of the things that have been missing can immediately come back to life.

If you would like to learn about the different levels of female dominance and to find out if you would like to try at least at some level, learn about the different levels here.

Understanding The Different Levels Of Female Dominance